Live out Your Dreams; SILENCE YOUR INNER CRITIC ONCE AND FOR ALL, DITCH THOSE NEGATIVE 'FRIENDS', AND FIND SOME SELF-BELIEF

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Byline: By Maria Croce

WE have more choices in life than ever before - but many of us are drowning under the pressure and losing confidence in our abilities.

But a new book sets out to help you look, act and, of course, feel better about yourself.

Whether the issue is an unhappiness with your figure, difficulty in enjoying success or doubts over the way you're raising your children - you need to develop your self-confidence.

Are You Good Enough? has been written by consultant psychiatrist Dr Alex Yellowlees, medical director of Glasgow's Priory Hospital, and Bill McFarlan, managing director of the Broadcasting Business, a Glasgow-based communications training company.

Founders of ConfidentScotland, they are both experts in building self-esteem. And they're on a mission to build the confidence of the nation.

Here we take a look at some of the tips from their new book.

1 RELATIONSHIP PIZZA

SOME people find it difficult to say no to anything or anybody. When they do manage to do so, usually because they've taken on too much, they end up feeling uncomfortable and anxious.

If this kind of person feels needed then they feel liked - and if they're liked they feel approved of, which makes them feel better about themselves.

But the danger is you can end up feeling drained because the energy you give out to others exceeds what you get back. So, work out how much of your energy you give to the people closest to you by dividing up an imaginary pizza into slices.

Now change the size of the slices to ensure you allocate a fair chunk of time to yourself.

2 PRUNE YOUR FRIENDS

IF you think of your life as like a garden, sometimes you need to prune back some of your friends to promote healthy growth.

Other people can have too much control and influence over your life, negatively affecting your self-confidence and happiness.

If your pals demand too much time and space you might need to trim them back. This will free up room for other pals who are being squeezed out.

You need to reassess the amount of time you spend with friends, the space they occupy and the context within which you socialise with them in order to get your relationships back on track.

If some undermine you, then they need to be rooted out completely.

3 THE POWER OF WORDS

EVERYTHING we say is a reflection of our thoughts, feelings and behaviour. …