What was your reaction when you first heard about the law?
Magro: I was angry and sad. I remember thinking that if I died, Heather should put the kids in the car and get out of the state as quickly as possible.
Did the girls understand what was happening?
Magro: We decided to talk to the kids about what was going on. They were just 5 at the time, but they understood it was a challenge to their right to have Heather as a parent. We were in the car listening to the 2004 Republican National Convention on NPR when Bush was talking about protecting traditional families. Our daughter Kate started bawling--really sobbing--for a good 20-30 minutes. When I finally got her to calm down, she said, "If he wins, are they gonna take Mommy away from us?"
Why stay and fight? Why not just leave Oklahorna?
Finstuen: I had just started law school, and Anne was midway though getting tenure [at the University of Oklahoma]. In a very real sense, we didn't have the luxury of saying, "OK, I'm leaving." But also, with all the antigay legislation around the country, going to another state seemed like a temporary solution at best. Once you start running, you never …