Byline: Andrew G Marshall
1 The best times are still ahead
Love at the beginning of a relationship is based on the promise of how life together could be. However, it is older couples who are the most romantic because, after 30 years-plus together, their love is based on the solid reality of a life shared and obstacles overcome. It's the bit in the middle that's tough, because earning a living and raising children come centre stage and couples can easily take each other for granted.
So capture the best of today, and every day, by telling your partner what you appreciate about him. Be as specific as possible ('I really appreciate you collecting me from my hen party') rather than general compliments ('You're good to me'), as it shows that you've noticed when he's gone the extra mile. In the same spirit, if you think 'I love you', say it, and if you're thinking of holding hands, do it. By expressing positive thoughts and gestures, you'll encourage your partner to do the same.
2 Find the positive angle
Many people communicate in negatives, unfortunately -- for example, 'We don't go out any more.' Their partners become defensive, justify themselves or switch off. However, if you put the same thought into a positive …