By Brad Knickerbocker writer of The Christian Science Monitor
The Christian Science Monitor
In Spokane, Wash., a judge delays a woman's divorce from her abusive husband when he learns that she's pregnant.
Georgia and several other states consider whether to lengthen the waiting period before marriages can be legally ended. Elsewhere, a growing movement is under way to promote "collaborative divorce," in which couples agree to settle such issues as child custody and finances without going to court - taking some of the civil war, in theory, out of marital breakups.
How - or even whether - to dissolve troubled marriages is becoming a prominent topic of public discussion and political activity.
It's part of the generally conservative marriage movement which includes the option in several states (Arkansas, Louisiana, and Arizona) to choose more restrictive "covenant marriages" and resists same-sex marriages. But the issue crosses ideological and political lines - liberals and conservatives alike worry about the high rates of divorce in this country - and in many ways it comes down to government's role in this most personal of decisions.
In addition, there are a growing number of laws that aren't directly related to the availability of divorce but could affect the instances and impact of failed marriages. Some provide "marriage skills" education in public schools as a way of avoiding divorce; others mandate "custody counseling" for divorce cases involving children.
"Half the states now have provisions for it or require it," says John Crouch, executive director of Americans for Divorce Reform, a small, all-volunteer group in Arlington, Va.
Critics have said that no-fault divorce laws led to an increase in US divorce rates. But recent research indicates that about 10 years after states pass such laws, divorce rates return to previous levels. Also, studies show that such "unilateral divorce" helps reduce the rate of domestic violence and suicide among women.
But now that a generation of Americans - and especially their children - have grown up during a period when divorce lost much of its social stigma and become easier to get, questions are being raised about the practice.
A bill being considered by the Georgia Legislature would extend the waiting period for divorce from 30 days to four months for couples without children and to six months for couples with children. The waiting period could be waived in cases involving spouse abuse, but parents would have to attend special classes on how divorce affects children.
While several states are moving in the same direction, similar bills have been considered and rejected in some states, including New Hampshire and Colorado. Lawmakers in New York - one of the last states which still do not grant no-fault divorces - are debating the need to make divorce easier. Last month, Michigan Gov. Jennifer Granholm vetoed bills that would encourage premarital counseling for couples and require counseling for couples with children who seek divorce.
"Let me be clear: Marriage preservation is a very important issue," Governor Granholm wrote in her veto letter. "But the decisions men and women make about marriage are private decisions. …