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Articles from Vol. 18, No. 5, September/October

A Grandparenting Guidebook
New roles for an often-overlooked family resource. I REMEMBER VERY CLEARLY THE DAY MY GRANDCHILD WAS BORN following a night of great anxiety. When Rhiannon finally arrived more than 30 hours later, she turned out to be almost 12 pounds, and my daughter...
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ALIENS THE LITTLE GRAY MEN HAD come for her again, Julia * told her therapist, taking her from her bed, through the walls of her bedroom and into their spaceship.There, she was made to lie on a table with bright, white lights all around, while reptilian-looking...
Book Review: Overpromised, Underresearched
Where's the science in psychotherapy? HOUSE OF CARDS: PSYCHOLOGY AND PSYCHOTHERAPY BUILT ON MYTH By Robyn M. DawesNew York: The Free Press 338 pages, $22.95 WE'VE HAD A HUNDRED YEARS OF PSYCHOTHERAPY AND THE WORLD'S GETTING WORSE BY JAMES HILLMAN ANDMICHAEL...
Case Studies: Turning Down the Temperature: Handling One of Marriage's Most Explosive Crises
How to cool down the temperature with couples facing the crisis of infidelity. EVERY THERAPIST KNOWS THAT THE DISCLOSURE OF AN extramarital affair can create an explosive crisis undermining the foundation of trust necessary to sustain a relationship....
Getting Well in the Fast Lane
Therapy on the information highway a strange fiction based on a stranger reality. TODAY, IN THE YEAR 1999, IT IS HARD TO BELIEVE THAT MENTAL health providers (who used to be called "therapists") once held sacrosanct the belief that a face-to-face relationship...
Homeboys: Homeboys
An inner-city father competes with a gang for his son's loyalty. I N MY DREAM, I'M RUNNING THROUGH A RAIN-SOAKED Chicago street in the predominantly Latino community of Humboldt Park, where I live. As I race by, I look around at the dilapidated, three-story...
Peer Marriage: Peer Marriage
What does it take to create a truly egalitarian relationship? WHEN I TOLD PEOPLE THAT I WAS BEGINNING A RESEARCH study of couples who evenly divided parenting and housework responsibilities, the usual reaction was mock curiosity how was I going to find...
Perspectives: Incorrigible
We need more realistic expectations about the possibilities of human transformation JUST HOW INCORRIGIBLE IS HUMAN NATURE, AND WHAT lessons on public policy follow once we come to terms with the sobering answer to this age-old question?On one level,...
Swallowed Alive: Swallowed Alive
The rules of family therapy are changing as clinicians try to help families resist today's voracious mass culture. NEARLY THIRTY YEARS AGO, IN A BOOK CALLED TECHNIQUES of Family Therapy, vanguard family therapists Lynn Hoffman and Jay Haley vividly...
The Half-Life of Grandfathers
IN THE PHOTOGRAPH OF MY maternal grandfather, Louie, that I remember most clearly, he is around 50, his bald head and profile prominent against a black background. His portrait became a blank screen for our family, on which we could project whatever...
The Power of Two: The Power of Two
Today, more than ever, parents need to get in synch. IT'S 1959 AND I HAVE JUST TURNED 13. YET, EVEN AS adolescence dawns and I begin to engage in timeless male initiation rites, I can still feel my mother's presence everywhere.My friend Mark and I are...
The Screening Room: It's a Jungle in Here
Two new Hollywood bits bring out the beast in us EVEN IF WE ARE WISE AS OWLS AND SLY AS FOXES, LESS sophisticated animals can teach us much about our human nature. But when we are feeling crazy as loons, slow as sloths and stubborn as mules, our human...