Family Therapy Networker

Articles from Vol. 23, No. 3, May/June

BOOKMARKS; Do Peers Trump Parents?: Conventional Child-Rearing Theory May Be Based on Wishful Thinking
The Nurture Assumption: Why Children Turn Out the Way They Do Judith Rich Harris The Free Press. 462 pp. ISBN: 0-684-84409-5 Anxious parents sending their children to summer camp often take pains to send along a list of their kids' food aversions,...
CASE STUDIES;Loyalty Violated: Ambivalence Haunts the Victims of Sexual Abuse
When the sexual abuse of a child by a family member comes to light, painful loyalty binds surface for everyone involved. The abused child may feel terribly guilty for having gotten an adult in trouble, especially if the offender previously preyed on...
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Divided Loyalty: The Challenge of Stepfamily Life
Roy was still smarting from the divorce his wife had insisted on, but he was settling into a pattern of regular contact with his two boys, ages 7 and 5. During his first therapy session, Roy told me how afraid he was of losing his sons, now that his...
FAMILY MATTERS; My Modern Maturity: Cosmic Lessons for Aging Boomers
This year, despite my optimistic outlook, I collided with middle age. I wish I could report that I arrived with dignity and grace, but it is not true. I was dragged there kicking and screaming all the way. Let me assure you, I eat well: cancer-preventive...
IN CONSULTATION; Been There, Done That: When Clients Resist Your Advice, Hang in There
Q: What should I do when the response to anything I suggest to a client is, "I've already tried that and it doesn't work"? A: Those moments can feel like you're caught in Chinese handcuffs--the more suggestions you make, the more stuck you and the...
Mentors for the '90S: Personal Coaching Is Becoming a Legitimate Career Path
The week after Christmas I was wrestling my obstinate luggage through an airport parking lot when a behemoth sport utility vehicle caught my eye. It was a hulking linebacker of a machine, its paint job gleaming coldly in the moonlight, its license plate...
NETWORKER NEWS; the Liveliest Block Party on the Planet: Record Attendance at the '99 Symposium
Mere minutes into his Friday morning keynote address at this year's Family Therapy Network Symposium, "Toward a New Vision of Healing: The Dance of Science, Intuition & Psychotherapy," Paul Pearsall showed his audience a slide of a baby girl, her...
Running on Ritalin: Is It the Drug of Choice or the Drug of Convenience?
It's midday at an elementary school in a comfortable American suburb. The lunch bell has just rung, and the kids are noisily pouring out of classrooms to enjoy a brief recess in the schoolyard before mealtime. Inside, next door to the principal's office,...
SCREENING ROOM; Rolling the Stone: Nick Nolte Epitomizes the Absurdity of the Masculine Mystique
Sisyphus, cursed to eternally roll a huge stone to the top of the hill only to watch it inevitably roll back down again, may have given us the emblematic symbol of the male condition. His life may be exhausting, pointless and absurd, but at least he...
The Ties the Define: Do We Choose Our Loyalties or Do They Choose Us?
A couple of years ago, in January, I totaled my 17-year-old Buick Skylark in an accident on an icy road. A day or two later, retrieving the license plates, I stood alone in a cold, miserable car graveyard with my caved-in old hulk of a car, surrounded...