A New, Inclusive Feminism

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What does it mean when nearly two-thirds of American women, young and old, tell pollsters they do not consider themselves feminists? Why do the same women welcome advances in education and employment, yet keep a distance from the movement that helped to win those gains?

There's no mystery. To many, the word feminism still connotes the peculiar phenomenon that took rise in the 1970s - distinguished by its sour attitude toward family life, its rigid party line on gay rights and abortion and its puzzling combination of sexual anger with sexual aggressiveness.

That strange brew was set aboil by the fateful coincidence of the birth-control pill with what demographers call the "marriage squeeze," the shortage of mates in the usual age range for women born in the early baby boom. Given the custom at that time for women to marry men a year or two older than themselves, the sharp postwar jump in birth rates meant that demography would be destiny for many unsuspecting girls who had been socialized for domesticity. (In the late 1960s, there were 1.7 million more women aged 20-24 than there were men in the 25-29 age group.) There was a domino effect as women in the Bella Abzug-Betty Friedan generation saw their husbands seduced by the unexpected change on the supply side of the sex and marriage market.

No wonder feminists of the '70s affected disdain for marriage and, to their everlasting credit, broke new ground in the economic and political spheres. No wonder they directed so much fury toward men, yet spent so much on cosmetics. No wonder they made common cause with advocates of alternative lifestyles. And no wonder that today most women have moved on, gratefully harvesting the gains while sloughing off the extremism, rage and promiscuity of an odd historical moment.

The many positive accomplishments of those years have been subsumed in a new, widely shared set of attitudes toward issues affecting women. Unlike its predecessor, the feminism now emerging is representative of the real-life needs and aspirations of a broad range of women. It wrestles with harmonizing family life and employment in a society where nearly five out of six women become mothers, where most mothers work outside the home and where divorce and poverty are ever-present risks. It has added up the costs to women and children of the sexual revolution. It sees women and men as partners rather than antagonists in the eternal quest for better ways to love and work.

The new feminism is a house with many rooms, inclusive rather than polarizing, open-minded rather than dogmatic, capacious enough to have attracted eloquent spokespeople as different as Pope John Paul II and Irish President Mary Robinson. Though far apart on issues such as abortion, the Catholic pontiff and the former international human rights lawyer are one in proclaiming women's rights to achieve their full potential in all spheres of life and in denouncing ideologies that pit women against children and men. …