Heterosexuality has to feature in our politics as more than a guilty secret…it must be restored as a legitimate part of feminism’s concern. It is, after all, the primary practice of most women.
The late Calvin Coolidge once remarked ‘If I want’ em, I want ’em; If I don’t, I don’t’. True, he was speaking of apples. But he might have said precisely the same of women. And so might all men.
In both feminist and men against sexism writings there is one issue which has, perhaps above all other, been singled out for debate and analysis: the politics of male sexuality or, more specifically, the oppressive, destructive and anti-social consequences of male heterosexuality. In feminist writings on the relation between law and male sexuality, in discussions of rape, child sexual abuse, domestic violence, sexual harassment and pornography, it is the destructive nature of male sexuality which is so often presented as the social problem which needs to be addressed by our society. Frequently texts conclude with a statement of the need to ‘take male sexuality seriously’ or to ‘tackle the problem’ of men and their dangerous sexuality. For Catherine Mackinnon, we have seen in Chapter 1, the relation is unequivocal: ‘the more feminist view to me…sees sexuality as a social sphere of male power of which forced sex is paradigmatic.’ (Mackinnon 1983:646). A similar concern with male sexuality is echoed in the men against sexism