Those of you who have been my colleagues and students (as well as all of you who will read this book) know of a concept I created called the “Phoenix Phenomenon,” which refers to the capacity for growth after crisis and about which you will read later in these pages. My initial publication of this concept was in 1972, and it continues to be valid, as you will see in chapter 6. This book, however, is, in itself, a “phoenix phenomenon.” Without the support of Dr. Ursula Springer and Sheri Sussman of Springer Publishing Company, it would never have existed. A new creation arose from the ashes of a very painful situation, and I am deeply grateful to both of them for their responsiveness and their support.
Were it not for an important conversation with a special (unnameable!) friend, I may never have had that “Aha! “ moment that showed me the direction I needed. (And I would not have gotten to that conversation were it not for his mother—so, yes, sometimes mothers do help!)
Although I have written and edited several books, this is the first time that I have totally flown solo. It definitely has both advantages and disadvantages, and I am very grateful to my family for their varied types of support. I am deeply indebted to my beloved daughter, Jeannine Wainrib, a multigifted young woman who moves gracefully from rearranging peoples' lives to editing and rearranging her mother's writings. And all of this is done in the midst of making a major life change herself, joining with Dr. Rod Merl, an equally caring and helpful soul.
For many years, we have been a family of dedicated Macintosh users, believers, and supporters. However, during this experience, I started to believe that Macintoshes were allergic to me. Not one but both of my otherwise trusty machines tested my faith and seemed to have rebelled against me. The final blow came when, dangerously close to my deadline, my “user-friendly” Mac moved itself into an otherwise unknown program (I think from Mars, but definitely not from Venus!). It refused to respond