OK in Oklahoma: After Anne Magro and Heather Finstuen Moved to Oklahoma from New Jersey with Twin Daughters, the State Passed a Law Prohibiting Recognition of Adoptions by Gays and Lesbians from Other States. Backed by Lambda Legal, the Couple of 15 Years Fought the Law in Court. in May They Won

By Avery, Dan | The Advocate (The national gay & lesbian newsmagazine), July 18, 2006 | Go to article overview
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OK in Oklahoma: After Anne Magro and Heather Finstuen Moved to Oklahoma from New Jersey with Twin Daughters, the State Passed a Law Prohibiting Recognition of Adoptions by Gays and Lesbians from Other States. Backed by Lambda Legal, the Couple of 15 Years Fought the Law in Court. in May They Won


Avery, Dan, The Advocate (The national gay & lesbian newsmagazine)


What was your reaction when you first heard about the law?

Magro: I was angry and sad. I remember thinking that if I died, Heather should put the kids in the car and get out of the state as quickly as possible.

Did the girls understand what was happening?

Magro: We decided to talk to the kids about what was going on. They were just 5 at the time, but they understood it was a challenge to their right to have Heather as a parent. We were in the car listening to the 2004 Republican National Convention on NPR when Bush was talking about protecting traditional families. Our daughter Kate started bawling--really sobbing--for a good 20-30 minutes. When I finally got her to calm down, she said, "If he wins, are they gonna take Mommy away from us?"

Why stay and fight? Why not just leave Oklahorna?

Finstuen: I had just started law school, and Anne was midway though getting tenure [at the University of Oklahoma]. In a very real sense, we didn't have the luxury of saying, "OK, I'm leaving." But also, with all the antigay legislation around the country, going to another state seemed like a temporary solution at best. Once you start running, you never stop.

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OK in Oklahoma: After Anne Magro and Heather Finstuen Moved to Oklahoma from New Jersey with Twin Daughters, the State Passed a Law Prohibiting Recognition of Adoptions by Gays and Lesbians from Other States. Backed by Lambda Legal, the Couple of 15 Years Fought the Law in Court. in May They Won
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