Public Speaking Jitters; Survival Clubs Ease the Stress of Giving Talks
Byline: Ann Geracimos, THE WASHINGTON TIMES
Your heart pounds. Your hands shake. Your throat is dry, your memory a blank.
All because you are called upon to give a report, a toast, a eulogy, or even an introduction to someone else's talk.
You are not alone. Public speaking is considered the most anxiety-provoking experience many people ever face - "the number one phobia in America" according to Burton Rubin of Alexandria, a lawyer by training whose own problem was so severe he started a business to help others in the same boat.
"Anxiety-relieving drugs don't always work that well," he says, comparing them to a mop that soaks up water rather than a fix for the leak.
Called Stagefright Survival School, a $2,500 course that can be taken over 10 weeks or a single intensive weekend, Mr. Rubin developed the program with a psychiatrist colleague for people whose lives are seriously affected by the same problem. By comparison, he says, Toastmasters International "is for hobbyists."
"We regard it as important to understand the mechanism of stage fright and methods to deal with it. It's essentially a chemical problem," he maintains. The not-so-secret cure? "To learn to displace self-conscious thinking - thinking about yourself." Obviously, that is easier said than done or Mr. Rubin would still be practicing law.
The Greater Washington area is awash with lawyers and other professionals who need communication skills to be effective in everyday life. Fortunately, there are several other less expensive avenues and even Web sites to which troubled souls can turn for relief in a supportive environment. Results vary, of course, with the individual and his or her diligence in confronting the issue, which, for many, goes beyond learning vocal techniques.
Learning how to organize one's remarks is an equally important skill involved in effective communication, most public speaking students agree.
That was only part of the experience enjoyed by Connie Donohoe, of Potomac, when she joined a private organization called the Capital Speakers Club. The club, which gives luncheon speakers a three-minute limit, meets monthly in Bethesda's Congressional Country Club.
"I'm very long-winded and can't say anything in three minutes," she says.
Giving a talk about planning her daughter's wedding and related matters "turned out to be very funny and in a way broke the ice for me," she recalls. Now, l7 years later, she cherishes the words of wisdom imparted to her by the club's tutor and mentor, Jean Miller, a professor at George Washington University.
"It got easier and easier every year because I lost the fear," Mrs. Donohoe says. "If you prepare, you should not be afraid. Jean was great about how to put a speech together: 'Tell 'em what you tell 'em and then tell why you told them,' " she says in a mock summary.
Candidates for the club are recommended by fellow members, all of whom are required to take an eight-week course covering basic speaking skills before joining.
"They are all women, with a lot from the diplomatic community, and women who own small businesses," says Ms. Miller. "Women give a speech at every meeting, and we grade them orally. ... I've had women [in the club] say they couldn't speak up at PTA meetings and now have the ability
"When people are in school, they don't recognize the importance of this. Not until they are faced with the prospect of giving a speech in the real world where they have real influence or want to," she adds.
By contrast, Toastmasters International, which has chapters across the world, is open to anyone 18 and older, except when a club chooses to restrict membership to a special interest group. The Web site (www.toastmasters- .org/find) lists clubs by name and number according to geographical area, along …
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Publication information: Article title: Public Speaking Jitters; Survival Clubs Ease the Stress of Giving Talks. Contributors: Not available. Newspaper title: The Washington Times (Washington, DC). Publication date: April 30, 2007. Page number: B01. © 2009 The Washington Times LLC. COPYRIGHT 2007 Gale Group.