Interpersonal Dimensions of Humanism
Werner, Michael, The Humanist
This is a tough world where our heroic selves emerge from our wounded selves in order to help us survive. Still, studies of what makes humans thrive shows that our intimate relationships are what really matter to us. Deep, trusting, supportive relationships, as vexing as they can be, are what buoy us through the tough times and elevate us in moments of shared exuberance. We all know this. But how often do we forget that, in relationships, supportive intelligence is more important than critical intelligence, forgiveness is more important than retribution, intimacy is more important than being right, and love is more important than knowledge?
All ethical and effective relations begin with empathy. While we have genetic impulses to fear and reject the other "tribe" humanism's primary ethical message asks that we widen our natural circles of caring and concern and that we affirm the inherent worth and dignity of each person. This is a prescriptive statement, not a descriptive one; equal moral worth isn't an entity, it's a practice that can transform both us and the world.
Ethical Culture leader and humanist Felix Adler's primary ethical rule was, "Act so as to elicit the best in others and thereby in thy self." I love the challenge of this interpersonal ethical guidepost, as it asks us to forget about vapid intellectual theorizing and moves us toward our own personal responsibility in raising ethical consciousness.
The American poet Edwin Markham captures another view of transformational toleration in his 1913 poem, "Outwitted":
He drew a circle that shut me out-Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But Love and I had the wit to win: We drew a circle and took him in.
How can we nurture our best tendencies toward empathy and understanding? How can we speak to those we disagree with and see they are part of our common humanity? How can we acknowledge their equal moral worth and dignity? We must practice.
The 1967 Humanist of the Year Abraham Maslow …
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Publication information: Article title: Interpersonal Dimensions of Humanism. Contributors: Werner, Michael - Author. Magazine title: The Humanist. Volume: 72. Issue: 5 Publication date: September-October 2012. Page number: 44. © 1999 American Humanist Association. COPYRIGHT 2012 Gale Group.
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