Relationships: Working Mums Do Their Children Feel They Suffered?; Leaving A Child in Someone Else's Care before They Are A Year Old Can Have Lasting Ill-Effects, According to Latest Research. to Put the Theory to the Test, We Spoke to Four People Whose Mothers Worked When They Were Babies. by Helen Renshaw and Alison Legh-Jones
Renshaw, Helen, Legh-jones, Alison, Sunday Mirror (London, England)
Looked after by childminders
Marketing manager Tina Zanelli-King, 32, lives in North London with husband Andy and their 11-month-old son Joseph. Her mum, Joan, 64, returned to work when Tina was six weeks old. Tina says:
I remember once bringing a friend home and finding my mum cleaning the kitchen floor. My friend thought mum was the hired help - she'd only ever seen me collected by au pairs and didn't know what my mum looked like. Both my parents were medical scientists and mum returned to work when I was six weeks old. I was always proud of her. But secretly, part of me longed for a tidy house and a mum who would appear with trays of drinks, like my friends' mums did.
Mum was 33 when she had me and 36 when my brother was born. By then, she'd worked long and hard and was loathe to give up her career. The world of science was male dominated, and there was no such thing as maternity leave.
Her decision to return to work was frowned on - particularly by my dad's Italian mother. But mum was determined I'd be looked after in a family environment and when I was a baby she'd leave me with a trusted neighbour who acted as an unregistered childminder. Mum would come home to make dinner. But often she'd return to her lab later in the evening and carry on working. Now mum makes much of the fact that we had quality time together - and we did eat and spend weekends as a family.
I do have vague memories of feeling my parents weren't always there for me, though they always attended parent's evenings. The quality time was very planned, but sometimes I didn't want to discuss things over dinner. Time restraints made it difficult to be spontaneous and I do feel that attitude has rubbed off - I'm very organised and tend to stick to routines. Having successful working parents also left me feeling that I was expected to achieve high standards. But I've not always been confident of my ability - and I still suffer from feelings of insecurity. I think that's because I didn't have someone constantly there to reassure …
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Publication information: Article title: Relationships: Working Mums Do Their Children Feel They Suffered?; Leaving A Child in Someone Else's Care before They Are A Year Old Can Have Lasting Ill-Effects, According to Latest Research. to Put the Theory to the Test, We Spoke to Four People Whose Mothers Worked When They Were Babies. by Helen Renshaw and Alison Legh-Jones. Contributors: Renshaw, Helen - Author, Legh-jones, Alison - Author. Newspaper title: Sunday Mirror (London, England). Publication date: April 9, 2000. Page number: 18. © 2009 MGN LTD. COPYRIGHT 2000 Gale Group.
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