Keep these habits strictly confidential
It's great that the two of you feel comfortable enough to share everything, but frankly, there are some mysteries that even the love of your life would rather you left unexposed.
In fact, writes Norm Feldman in last month's Cosmopolitan, there are certain realities that men would prefer not to confront firsthand, and frankly, ladies, we agree. A little mystery goes a long way. With that in mind, here are a few habits you might want to keep hidden.
- Grooming. Strictly verboten, even after you've been married 50 years. No guy, no matter how devoted, wants to see you pluck, tweeze, pick, bleach or wax anything. If a beauty overhaul is in order, do it behind a locked bathroom door.
- Know when to say when. The only thing that's more embarrassing than a drunk girlfriend is a drunk girlfriend singing show tunes and dancing on tables.
- Ex-boyfriends. As far as old boyfriends are concerned, silence is golden. You're current beau doesn't want to hear about how attractive Mr. Almost Right is, how much money he makes, how tall he is, etc. And under no circumstance, do they want to hear about sex with your ex, unless it's to complain how bad it was.
Win friends and influence family
With all due respect to John Donne, no couple is an island. Whether you're married, cohabiting or keeping exclusive company, each of you has to deal with the other's family and that can be a dicey proposition. Let's face it, nothing disrupts couplehood like the disapproving eye of an overbearing relative.
The best protection, says Diane Forden, editor-in-chief of Bridal Guide, is to tackle families as a team.
- Visit as a couple so they will start to accept that you belong together. …