M Relationships: I Tracked Down My Husband's Lover and Ended Up Falling for Her Man; When Joanne Slinn Turned Detective to Track Down the Woman Who Had Wrecked Her Marriage, She Didn't Bargain on Falling in Love Herself

The Mirror (London, England), April 23, 2002 | Go to article overview

M Relationships: I Tracked Down My Husband's Lover and Ended Up Falling for Her Man; When Joanne Slinn Turned Detective to Track Down the Woman Who Had Wrecked Her Marriage, She Didn't Bargain on Falling in Love Herself


Byline: JILL FOSTER

Silently leaning over the banister, Joanne Slinn held her breath and strained to hear her husband talking on the phone downstairs.

It was a cold evening in early January 2000. Joanne had gone upstairs for a bath, leaving Andrew, then 33, and their two sons, Aaran, 11, and Christopher, 9, in the living room. While she listened, she played over in her mind a phone call earlier that evening.

The family had been eating Sunday dinner when Andrew, a supervisor at a chilled foods company, received a phone call. As he spoke to the person on the other end of the line, Joanne noticed him blushing.

"I asked him who it was and he said it was someone at the office who wanted him to go in. He'd told them he couldn't," says Joanne, 34, from Stoke-on-Trent.

"His work never called him at home. I thought it was odd but didn't say any more.

"After dinner, I went upstairs and dialled 1471 - the call had been from his work. I felt silly and

relieved but couldn't help wondering why he had blushed.

"As I was running the bath I heard him talking to someone quietly downstairs. I crept to the top of the landing and listened in." Joanne could just make out that her husband was trying to reassure someone.

"He was whispering: 'Yeah... What did he say?... Are you all right?' "I knew straight away, by the tone of his voice and the fact that he was trying to keep quiet, that he was having an affair. "I felt sick, my stomach was churning and I was in shock.

"Suddenly, someone came out of the living room and headed towards the stairs. I raced to the bathroom and sat in the bath in silence - my head was pounding." For the rest of the evening, Joanne put up a pretence, not knowing what to say to her husband.

"As we got into bed I asked him if he had someone else. My heart was beating so hard because I was frightened of what he might say. "He insisted there was no one but never mentioned the second call. He said everything was fine, that the call from work was nothing to worry about, then turned over and went to sleep.

"That was the worst night ever. I knew he was lying. I hardly slept. I kept getting up in the night and heaving into the toilet. He slept soundly through it all."

Joanne had another reason to suspect that Andrew was having an affair. Married for almost 12 years, they had recently moved to a new house in Stoke, and had what Joanne describes as a normal marriage.

But a few days earlier, at a New Year's Eve party, an incident had sown a seed of doubt in Joanne's mind.

"We were at a friend's house playing a game. We were asked questions about our life and had to write downour answers. One of the questions was, 'Who would have an affair and not tell their partner?'

"The game was interrupted as midnight struck and everyone went outside to watch the fireworks. I peeked at Andrew's answer, which said, 'I would'. "I was shocked. I said: 'What do you mean, you would? I can't believe you've put that, you've always said I'm the only one.'

"He simply answered: 'Well you would, wouldn't you?'" As the fireworks exploded and the champagne flowed, Andrew and Joanne got caught up in the celebrations.

"We'd had a lot to drink and I thought it wasn't the time or the place to question him. But it seemed a strange thing to write.

"The next day I just let it go. Looking back, I was naive but it was just a silly game. I would have trusted Andrew with my life." Joanne and Andrew met in a local pub when she was 17 and he was 21.

"He asked me to marry him two weeks after we started going out but I said we should wait until my 18th birthday," she says.

"He was in the Royal Engineers so we could only grab weekends together but we were mad about each other.

"By the time we got engaged the following August, I really loved him.

The rest of this article is only available to active members of Questia

Sign up now for a free, 1-day trial and receive full access to:

  • Questia's entire collection
  • Automatic bibliography creation
  • More helpful research tools like notes, citations, and highlights
  • Ad-free environment

Already a member? Log in now.

Notes for this article

Add a new note
If you are trying to select text to create highlights or citations, remember that you must now click or tap on the first word, and then click or tap on the last word.
One moment ...
Project items

Items saved from this article

This article has been saved
Highlights (0)
Some of your highlights are legacy items.

Highlights saved before July 30, 2012 will not be displayed on their respective source pages.

You can easily re-create the highlights by opening the book page or article, selecting the text, and clicking “Highlight.”

Citations (0)
Some of your citations are legacy items.

Any citation created before July 30, 2012 will labeled as a “Cited page.” New citations will be saved as cited passages, pages or articles.

We also added the ability to view new citations from your projects or the book or article where you created them.

Notes (0)
Bookmarks (0)

You have no saved items from this article

Project items include:
  • Saved book/article
  • Highlights
  • Quotes/citations
  • Notes
  • Bookmarks
Notes
Cite this article

Cited article

Style
Citations are available only to our active members.
Sign up now to cite pages or passages in MLA, APA and Chicago citation styles.

(Einhorn, 1992, p. 25)

(Einhorn 25)

1

1. Lois J. Einhorn, Abraham Lincoln, the Orator: Penetrating the Lincoln Legend (Westport, CT: Greenwood Press, 1992), 25, http://www.questia.com/read/27419298.

Cited article

M Relationships: I Tracked Down My Husband's Lover and Ended Up Falling for Her Man; When Joanne Slinn Turned Detective to Track Down the Woman Who Had Wrecked Her Marriage, She Didn't Bargain on Falling in Love Herself
Settings

Settings

Typeface
Text size Smaller Larger
Search within

Search within this article

Look up

Look up a word

  • Dictionary
  • Thesaurus
Please submit a word or phrase above.
Print this page

Print this page

Why can't I print more than one page at a time?

Full screen

matching results for page

Cited passage

Style
Citations are available only to our active members.
Sign up now to cite pages or passages in MLA, APA and Chicago citation styles.

"Portraying himself as an honest, ordinary person helped Lincoln identify with his audiences." (Einhorn, 1992, p. 25).

"Portraying himself as an honest, ordinary person helped Lincoln identify with his audiences." (Einhorn 25)

"Portraying himself as an honest, ordinary person helped Lincoln identify with his audiences."1

1. Lois J. Einhorn, Abraham Lincoln, the Orator: Penetrating the Lincoln Legend (Westport, CT: Greenwood Press, 1992), 25, http://www.questia.com/read/27419298.

Cited passage

Welcome to the new Questia Reader

The Questia Reader has been updated to provide you with an even better online reading experience.  It is now 100% Responsive, which means you can read our books and articles on any sized device you wish.  All of your favorite tools like notes, highlights, and citations are still here, but the way you select text has been updated to be easier to use, especially on touchscreen devices.  Here's how:

1. Click or tap the first word you want to select.
2. Click or tap the last word you want to select.

OK, got it!

Thanks for trying Questia!

Please continue trying out our research tools, but please note, full functionality is available only to our active members.

Your work will be lost once you leave this Web page.

For full access in an ad-free environment, sign up now for a FREE, 1-day trial.

Already a member? Log in now.