Just Say 'No' to These Sexual Antics
Dickson, E Jane, The Independent (London, England)
Every generation thinks it invented sex. Some generations, it appears, are more inventive than others. I cannot be the only parent whose reaction on hearing the alarming news from the Royal College of Nursing that schoolchildren are indulging in the sexual practice of 'daisy- chaining' was: what in God's name is daisy-chaining?
A quick trawl through the internet left me disabused of any 'he loves me, he loves me not' teenage dream. Daisy-chaining, it turns out, is simultaneous group sex in which each person connects, genitally, with another; the precise disposition of bodyparts required to effect this human Rubik's Cube remains hazy, but one thing is clear: it's a long way from Postman's Knock.
The idea that schoolchildren are skipping homework for this kind of thing is, of course, horrible and we must be thankful to the school nurses at this week's RCN conference in Harrogate for drawing our attention to the phenomenon; even the most liberal parents, one assumes, are unaware that their teenagers are practising such terrifically unsafe sex after school hours.
It really shouldn't come as news that underage sex is on the increase " or did we think that all those teenagers pushing buggies were just helping out their big sisters? The shame is that it takes a brand new buzz-word to shock us out of our complacency. We know that Britain has more teenage pregnancies than anywhere else in Europe. We know sexually transmitted diseases have increased by 57 per cent in the last 10 years. You'd think we'd know if our children were organising orgies in the living room, but apparently we don't.
It is axiomatic that children don't want to think about their parents having sex; the very idea is monstrous. Increasingly, the reverse is true; parents, too appalled or too embarrassed to confront their children's sexual activity, are doing the equivalent of sticking their fingers in their ears and humming.
Are we, quite simply, out of our depth? My internet search for 'daisy- chaining' opened up a realm of eye-popping sexual proclivities; such a resource " free, unregulated, explicit " will surely not be lost on a curious, click -happy child. Much has been written of late about the 'digital divide' between parents and their computer-literate offspring. Could it be that another generational divide is opening up, with children pretending to a degree of 'sexual literacy' their parents never dreamed of?
Baby-boomers are accustomed to think of themselves as unshockable " hell, we lived through the '60s. But two generations have grown up since the summer of love. For those currently aged 45 and over, the average age to lose one's virginity was 17. For those in the 16-20 age range, the figure has dropped by two …
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Publication information: Article title: Just Say 'No' to These Sexual Antics. Contributors: Dickson, E Jane - Author. Newspaper title: The Independent (London, England). Publication date: April 29, 2005. Page number: 45. © 2009 The Independent - London. Provided by ProQuest LLC. All Rights Reserved.
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