Like P Diddy, I Had a Thing for Posh White Girls
Dhaliwal, Nirpal, The Evening Standard (London, England)
SIENNA Miller is reportedly the woman behind P Diddy's separation from his long-term girlfriend, Kim Porter. Having made millions from his blacker-than-thou homeboy image, exhorting his fans to "keep it real" while bouncing around in outsized toddler outfits, P Diddy is accused of forsaking a stunning black woman, the mother of his children, for some prime, blonde-haired, blue-eyed English totty. For even those who are the most ostentatiously proud of their ethnicity can't resist the allure of interracial sex.
In my experience, racial and cultural differences bring a frisson to the sexual experience, adding a degree of mystery and an illicit thrill of transgression. Mixed-race relationships aren't the taboo they once were, but sex between races is still loaded with baggage that is both enticing and problematic.
I can understand why Sienna might have got Diddy smitten.
When I was younger, I had a thing about posh white girls with plummy accents, too. I never knew such creatures while growing up, and first met them at university.
Upper-class English girls conduct themselves with such confidence and refinement that they blow boys from the lower orders away. I remember lying in bed with one and thinking I'd finally arrived, that I was somebody and not just trash destined for nothing. For her, I guess, I represented a rebellion and escape from her background.
It was a disgraceful thought for me to have to think that sex with the white-skinned upper classes marked a sort of social triumph but it showed the power that race and class exert over people's imagination. …