Understand that you are not a white family with some members of other races. You are now a family of color. Remember that as you make choices about neighborhoods, schools, churches, etc. It might be preferable, if adopting/fostering across racial lines, to adopt or foster more than one child of color. Don't isolate yourself. You need to socialize and interact with other foster/adoptive families, preferably those with racially mixed families. It is extremely helpful to have other parents to talk with about the issues of raising a child of color to have a positive self-esteem and racial identity.
|1.||In what ways does your family differ culturally from your child's birth family?|
|2.||Do you see your family as a minority family? If yes, how has that affected your entire family?|
|3.||At what stage of racial identity formation is my child? Why?|
|4.||Has your child experienced critical incidents? How has he been affected? How have you been affected?|
|5.||What kinds of discrimination might your child experience? Do you feel comfortable assisting your child in coping effectively with discrimination? Where can you find help?|
|6.||Do you need to seek assistance from your child's birth culture to learn ways to enhance your child's self-esteem and positive racial identity? Where might you find that kind of assistance?|