Open adoption relationships require risk taking. Adoptive parents with these ongoing relationships need to be able to function without all the answers upfront and clear. You don't know all the answers when it comes to working out these types of arrangements.A final characteristic is that these adoptive parents are aware of and sensitive to the core issues of adoption that impact not only their child, but the birth mother as well. Open adoption does not eradicate the grief, loneliness, and guilt for these birth mothers. It eases, but not erases. 15
|1.||What are the expectations?|
|2.||What are the fears?|
|3.||What are the wishes and worries?|
|4.||How will we handle disappointments and setbacks?|
|5.||What parental characteristics best fit successful relationships when opening a closed adoption?|
|1.||How would you describe the current level of openness in your adoption?|
|2.||What are some of the questions you can use to address your child's expectations about opening up the closed adoption?|
|3.||What are your own wishes and worries for this experience?|
|4.||What type of support do you have from your extended family, friends, or adoption agency?|
|5.||Discuss why you agree or disagree with the recognition that opening up a closed adoption does not completely erase some of a child's pain regarding adoption?|
Questia, a part of Gale, Cengage Learning. www.questia.com
Publication information: Book title: Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child:Making Sense of the Past. Contributors: Betsy Keefer - Author, Jayne E. Schooler - Author, Jack G. Kammer - Illustrator, Kristi Anne Kammer - Illustrator. Publisher: Bergin & Garvey. Place of publication: Westport, CT. Publication year: 2000. Page number: 178.
This material is protected by copyright and, with the exception of fair use, may not be further copied, distributed or transmitted in any form or by any means.