The Dark Side of Interpersonal Communication

By William R. Cupach; Brian H. Spitzberg | Go to book overview

"so what, it's bad for those who get caught, big deal." Either way, I lose out. I guess lying is bad because I'm no good at it. So I agree with lying being one of the dark sides of interpersonal communication.

The second perspective takes a more absolutist view, one that abhors deception for its deleterious affects on the interpersonal process:

Lying/deception is one of the dark sides of interpersonal communication because it "short circuits" the connection between the minds and spirits of the persons involved and is, therefore, a deterrent to true intimacy.

In both cases, it is the "consequences" of deception that influenced their respective viewpoints on deception as a dark side of interpersonal communication.


ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

The authors wish to thank Christopher Carver, Texas Tech University, for his insightful comments during the early stages of this chapter.


REFERENCES

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Andersen P. A. (in press). Beside language: Nonverbal communication in interpersonal interaction. Mayfield Press.

Bavelas J. B., Black A., Chovil N., & Mullett J. ( 1990). Equivocal communication. Newbury Park, CA: Sage Publications.

Bentham J. ( 1983). Deontology: Together with a table of the springs of action and the article on utilitarianism. New York: Oxford University Press.

Bok S. ( 1979). Lying: Moral choice in public and private life. New York: Vintage Books.

Booth W. C. ( 1974). Modern dogma and the rhetoric of assent. Chicago: University ofChicago Press.

Buller D. B., & Aune R. K. ( 1987). "Nonverbal cues to deception among intimates, friends, and strangers". Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, 11, 269-289.

Buller D. B., & Burgoon J. K. (in press). "Deception". In J. A. Daly & J. M. Wiemann (Eds.), Communicating strategically: Strategies in interpersonal communication. Hillsdale, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.

Buller D. B., Comstock J., Aune R. K., & Strzyzewski K. D. ( 1989). "The effect of probing on deceivers and truthtellers". Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, 13, 155-169.

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Canary D., & Cody M. J., ( 1994). Interpersonal communication: A goals approach. New York: St. Martin's Press.

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  • Title Page iii
  • Contents v
  • Preface vii
  • References ix
  • PART I - Shades of Darkness in Interpersonal Relations 1
  • Chapter 1 - Stratagems, Spoils, and a Serpent's Tooth: On the Delights and Dilemmas of Personal Relationships 3
  • Acknowledgments 20
  • References 20
  • Chapter 2 - The Dark Side of (in) Competence 25
  • References 41
  • PART II - The Maze of Messages 51
  • Chapter 3 - Messages that Hurt 53
  • Acknowledgments 78
  • References 78
  • Chapter 4 - Patterns of Interational Paradoxes 83
  • References 100
  • Chapter 5 - Equivocations as an Interactional Event 105
  • References 122
  • PART III - The Face Beneath the Masks 125
  • Chapter 6 - Conversational Dilemmas 127
  • References 157
  • Chapter 7 - Social Predicaments 159
  • References 176
  • Chapter 8 - Deception 181
  • Acknowledgments 211
  • References 211
  • PART IV - Relational Webs 215
  • Chapter 9 - Relational Transgressions 217
  • References 238
  • Chapter 10 - Privacy Binds in Family Interactions: The Case of Parental Privacy Invasion 241
  • References 256
  • Chapter 11 - The Dark Side of "Normal" Family Interaction 259
  • References 276
  • Chapter 12 - Physical and Psychological Abuse 281
  • References 306
  • PART V - Fetching Good out of Evil 313
  • Chapter 13 - Dark Side Dénouement 315
  • References 319
  • AUTHOR INDEX 321
  • SUBJECT INDEX 335
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