The Dark Side of Interpersonal Communication

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"so what, it's bad for those who get caught, big deal." Either way, I lose out. I guess lying is bad because I'm no good at it. So I agree with lying being one of the dark sides of interpersonal communication.

The second perspective takes a more absolutist view, one that abhors deception for its deleterious affects on the interpersonal process:

Lying/deception is one of the dark sides of interpersonal communication because it "short circuits" the connection between the minds and spirits of the persons involved and is, therefore, a deterrent to true intimacy.

In both cases, it is the "consequences" of deception that influenced their respective viewpoints on deception as a dark side of interpersonal communication.


The authors wish to thank Christopher Carver, Texas Tech University, for his insightful comments during the early stages of this chapter.


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