Just Joan: Wife Wants Me to Have Sex with Her

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Byline: Joan Burnie

QMY wife and I married five years ago when she was 46 and I was ten years older. It was a second marriage for us both.

We agreed on separate bedrooms. I have never been very interested in sex, even when I was younger, and my wife had left her first husband because if she didn't agree to sex, he would rape her.

Our marriage has, I would say, been very successful.

We have many shared hobbies over the years, including Scottish country dancing, gardening and bowls.

We both have children and grand- children from our previous marriages and everyone gets on very well.

Up until about nine months ago I would have said our life was nearly perfect.

But my wife has now developed a very unhealthy interest in sex. She keeps coming into my room and trying to get me to sleep with her.

It's got to the stage where I can't even give her a hug or kiss on the cheek in case she grabs me. The result is that I feel on edge all the time.

I feel it could be to do with the way her husband treated her.

Maybe she wants to get back at men because of what he did to her.

I don't want to leave her but I am at the end of my tether.

AI DON'T doubt your wife was just as convinced as you were that a sexless marriage was what she wanted. …