"Interracial Dating: Yes or No?"

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Sha-Sha Allen Brooklyn, New York

As an African-American woman, I don't have a problem with a person dating people of other ethnic groups. I believe dating is just one of many ways of socializing. It is through socializing with different people that we learn about who we are.

However, I do have a problem with a person dating solely outside of his or her own ethnic group. I believe if one allows a few bad people to spoil his or her perception of his or her own people, then he or she is giving in to generalizations. I don't think one is being fair to oneself to allow generalizations to stop him or her from dating within his or her own ethnic group. If a person does give in, he or she is preventing himself or herself from learning about what we are, as a people, as well as who he or she is, as an individual.

Gregory Clark Louisiana College Lecompte, Louisiana

Yes, I believe that people should start using the content of one's character to find a date. Rejection on the basis of race is an unfair practice that deprives us of the opportunity to explore the personalities of people of other races. The more open we become to others, the more likely we are to find the "right" match and eliminate prejudices and hostilities toward other ethnic groups.

The Holy Scriptures declare that we are all created from one blood and are therefore the same within. Picking dates by their race is discrimination in the wake of an America that desires change and equality. Shouldn't we live in harmony?

Kermit A. Franklin Graduate--West Bank Technical Institute Southern University of New Orleans Marrero, Louisiana

Yes, although many people disagree based on their own prejudices against other races. But it is ordained by God that we are all one race of human beings, with no differences except between the righteous and the sinners.

It is a person's God-given right to date or choose whomever he or she wants as long as they are good persons who bring out the best in the other.

Regardless of what some men and women may feel or what is "outlawed" in society, people are going to date, marry, and reproduce interracially, and have done so since the beginning and will until the end. Everyone needs to live and let live. We should focus on making ourselves and our lives better.

Kyle C. Gibson Florida African-American Student Association Florida Atlantic University Boca Raton, Florida

This is a very good question, and very difficult to answer in so few words. As a proud male of African descent, I feel that we, as Pan-Africans, should keep intimate relationships within our own Nubian circle. I believe interracial dating is o.k. as long as it is kept at the level of friend. But before we Pan-Africans become seriously involved and fall in love with members of other ethnic groups, we should first learn to love ourselves. After we master the art of loving our own Pan-African sisters and brothers, we can love anybody we want to. But love of self should come first.

Becky Goodwin Senior Coppin State College Aberdeen, Maryland

Movies like "Jungle Fever" and "The Bodyguard" have appeared to focus on interracial dating as mainstream while African Americans continue to struggle against the increasing undercurrent of racism and bigotry within our country, which is partly due to an economic recession. Fortunately, the Clinton administration's theme embraces unity, prosperity, and equality through diversity.

Interracial dating can be healthy if it is not pursued as a form of self hatred. It is important to learn, understand, and respect other cultures. This can be achieved through interracial dating in some instances. However, it is equally important and perhaps more so that we African Americans attempt to heal our hurting relationships.

History will teach us, if we are willing to learn. Historically, before the Jews were persecuted, the relationships and marriages between Jews and non-Jews had grown to an all-time high. …