Fiance's Comments Should End Wedding Plans

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Dear Ms. Vicki,

I'm getting married in a year and I'm discovering all kinds of things I hate about my fiance. He likes too many sports - even fishing and bowling - and lets them interrupt our plans. He is also very moralistic and condescending, and hates my gay friends and my friends of other races.

I am trying to help him by educating him. When I take him around my friends, he acts like he is comfortable, but when we come home, he makes homophobic comments.

Now he acts like he doesn't like the music I listen to and he's saying my friends are all influencing me about culture, food and travel.

Should I continue in this relationship or proceed in hopes that he will change? I'm not sure what to do. - Searching For a Soul Mate

Dear Searching,

I think it was Maya Angelou who said, When people show you who they are, believe them. I think your fiance is showing you who he really is. I also think every relationship needs compromise and respect for each other and our differences. …