Is Sex Making Your Man Ill?; Some Blokes Don't Enjoy an Afterglow. a Session between the Sheets Gives Them Flu

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Byline: Jane Lovatt

HE FLOPS on the bed in a state of post-coital bliss, worn out by his passionate, rigorous toiling. He's drenched in sweat and there's a far- away, glazed look in his eye. Is he in heaven?

Or is he, in fact, feeling slightly under the weather? Has making love actually made him unwell?

For centuries Chinese Taoists have connected sex to our health and well- being. They believe that when a man's mind demands more orgasms than his body can comfortably produce, he ends up feeling irritable and fatigued.

He may cough, have a dry mouth and feel hot and feverish. His body will be drained of a vital energy (known as "chi") and what started out as a burst of unbridled lust may leave him feeling like he's got a nasty dose of flu.

If this sounds like the ultimate cop-out, be warned ... a leading Dutch health expert has recently picked up on this bewildering behaviour.

Dr Marcel Waldinger, head of the Department of Psychiatry and Neurosexology at Leyenburg Hospital in The Hague, is studying a syndrome among middle- aged men who claim to have flu-like symptoms for up to a week after having an orgasm.

Dr Waldinger calls it "post-orgasmic illness" syndrome and has already seen several men complaining of flu- like symptoms, including a sore throat, sweating, fatigue and irritation.

"Men developed influenza-like symptoms within minutes of having an orgasm," says Dr Waldinger. "It's like having a serious flu."

While the Chinese believe ejaculation drains the body of its health-boosting chi energy, Dr Waldinger claims it is the immune system's allergic response to the release of chemicals in the body sex that brings on the symptoms - which last from three to seven days.

"We know during orgasm and ejaculation very specific compounds are released into the nervous system," he says. "Sufferers might have an allergic reaction to one of those compounds."

So, sadly, it looks like having an orgasm could have its downside.

"If you overdo sex it can certainly have an affect on the kidney chi," says Dr Xiang- Hui Liang, a Chinese medical expert who practises at well-known Edinburgh herbalists Napiers.

"This is particularly noticeable in older men. When you reach 60 it's important not to overdo it as this can make the kidneys weak."

Dr Liang says: "Your legs can feel heavy and you generally feel tired. It's important to maintain a sexual balance and not to overstretch yourself.

"However, there are Chinese medicines based on herbal compounds available as a remedy for this condition. Sufferers should seek a consultation with a trained practitioner."

If your man often feels groggy after reaching a climax, you might like to try the Chinese practice of Yi Jing which avoids ejaculation and the flu- like symptoms which may come with it.

This involves the man penetrating a couple of inches only. The woman lies on her back, with legs shoulder- width apart while the man kneels below her hips and places his arms either side of his partner's head.

Meanwhile, she wraps her legs around the man's waist and swings her hips right and left until she feels stimulated. Then they stop love- making before the man is tempted to release his all-important chi.

Extreme self-control is required all round and it's hard to imagine the man who could be so, restrained. Surely the odd dose of flu is far preferable?


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