Love and Friendship

Love and Friendship

Love and Friendship

Love and Friendship


This volume brings together in a single binding Jules Toner's classic treatise, The Experience of Love -- out of print for many years and now made available again -- and a new posthumous book published here for the first time, Personal Friendship: The Experience and the Ideal.


Jules Toner and I made contact on the occasion of my asking him, in my capacity as director of Marquette University Press, to read a manuscript as a referee for the Press. I had only known him by reputation, chiefly as a result of reading his great book The Experience of Love. That book had impressed me very early as the best thing I had ever read on the subject.

I found him at Colombiere Center in Clarkson, Michigan, a place described in its letterhead as Conference Center, Health Care, Jesuit Community. It was the first I knew of his failing health and weakening condition. We struck up a correspondence, in the course of which I mentioned my continuing admiration of his 1968 book, lamenting its having gone out of print (along with all the wonderful books brought out by that enlightened house, Corpus Books, before it ceased publishing). I asked him whether he would consider allowing Marquette University Press to reprint his book on love, and he said he would do so. He then mentioned that he had been working on a new book, on friendship, and asked whether I would be interested in having a look at it. Would I?! I read it and found it a marvelous work. He set to work completing it and having it typed to disk by a friend. Before we could get it into print, he died.

I have truly found it a labor of love (and friendship) to edit these two volumes-combined in one for this special edition-and to dedicate them to the memory of Jules Toner.

My modest duties in preparing Toner's work for this edition have been to review and edit the digital versions word by word, to construct a single bibliography and index for the combined books (The Experience of Love had an index but no bibliography; Personal Friendship had neither), and to reformat the notes in accordance with our house style, which is that of the Chicago Manual of Style, 14th edition. Mainly the latter consisted in converting reference notes to embedded form and in bringing content notes into the text, either in parentheses, or, where the ideas flowed well, without parentheses. The result is a book without notes. It is part of my “philosophy,” grown into as director and editor, that authors usually overdo the use of notes, and I have been a major offender myself. When asked about style now I tell authors to use the author+date method (favored Chi-

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