The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing


Praise for the emotionally abusive relationship

" A good, solid treatment of an insidious but all-too-common type of relationship in which the weapons are words and moods rather than the fist, but which do just as much damage. Most importantly, Ms. Engel doesn’ t just describe&- she shows us the way out."

&- Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Emotional Blackmail

" In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. S explores the dynamics of emotional abuse, helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse."

&- Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse

" This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotional abuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showing each,party what emotional abuse is, how it affects the relationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamic relationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp the tools for change and really use them."

&- Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of

" This is a must read for anyone who identifies with being emotionally abused or emotionally abusive. Beverly Engel not only offers a detailed description of the components of emotional abuse, she goes on to offer practical suggestions for healing both for individuals and for couples."

&- Steven Farmer, Ph.D., author of Adult Children ofAbusive Parents and Sacred Ceremony


For The Power of Apology

" Important insights on healing the past with new perspectives on apology."

&- Gerald G. Ja


I wrote this book for several important reasons. First of all, evidence is mounting that emotional abuse is a major epidemic in our culture. At the same time, emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse. Unlike sexual abuse and domestic violence, there has been very little public education on the subject. Very few people know what constitutes emotional abuse and even fewer understand the consequences of it. Although the number of people who suffer from emotional abuse as children and who either become emotionally abusive themselves as adults or become involved with partners who emotionally abuse them is phenomenal, few people are cognizant of how this form of abuse has deeply affected their lives.

Second, I have a deep and abiding desire to help end the cycle of abuse that characterizes our nation and many others. My hope is that by helping individuals and couples to stop abusing each other, we will raise children who are less likely to pass on abusive communication and behavior to their children and substantially reduce the incidence of child abuse in the future. I have been an advocate for those who have been emotionally, sexually, or physically abused for most of my career as a psychotherapist and an author. My dedication to helping those who have been abused comes from the fact that I myself was emotionally and sexually abused as a child. Many of you reading this book may know me from one or more of my previous books on abuse, especially The Emotionally Abused Woman, Encouragements for the . . .

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