Asserting Yourself: A Practical Guide for Positive Change

Asserting Yourself: A Practical Guide for Positive Change

Asserting Yourself: A Practical Guide for Positive Change

Asserting Yourself: A Practical Guide for Positive Change

Synopsis

This comprehensive guide focuses on a technique called DESC scripting, a step-by-step program for handling interpersonal conflicts and a self-change program.

Excerpt

From time to time, most of us are uneasy with other people; we feel left out, put down, or cheated. But too often we can't speak up for our legitimate needs and rights. Instead, we tell ourselves, "I don't want to look pushy." Or, "I'm afraid I won't be taken seriously." "I never could stand up for myself." "Nothing will change anyhow." These phrases don't help; they simply reflect low self-esteem.

We have written this book to help remedy this situation. We want people to gain self-esteem and confidence in expressing themselves effectively and forthrightly. We want readers to be able to stand up for their rights and negotiate productively with others who put them down. Assertiveness doesn't mean being pushy or aggressive. Indeed, assertive people avoid aggression because they can resolve their problems more easily.

The goal we stress in this book is better self-management We promote the values of personal growth and fulfillment for everyone. The self- managed life style rests upon humanistic values, particularly the idea that each person must take responsibility for the quality of his relationships with others. Assertiveness training is a process that can make it possible to achieve this goal of self-management

We believe that this book represents a unique approach to helping people become more assertive. The techniques that we introduce and use here have come from our experiences. Sharon Bower, a former actress and director, studied behavior-change techniques while working toward a master's degree in counseling and guidance at Stanford University. During her clinical training, Sharon started assertiveness training with middle-aged . . .

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