Academic journal article Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality

More Than Two

Academic journal article Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality

More Than Two

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More Than Two

Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert

Thorntree Press

Over the past few years I have reviewed several new books on Polyamory. Each one had something to offer the reader who was new to, or struggling with, polyamory. In this latest offering, Franklin and Eve summarize the topic in a very readable and quite complete way. It was edited by a highly qualified editor well versed in polyamory, and was supported by an online fund raising effort from the poly community. It may be obtained in the Kindle version and hard copies are now available in bookstores.

Eve and Franklin have years of poly experience and bring to this book their personal experience and hard earned knowledge, their joys and their mistakes. It is a pleasure to read and is full of ideas helpful to anyone in, or considering, multiple consensual open loving relationships.

A core value promoted in the book is the idea of flexibility. We are raised in a culture that has only a few paths to successful romantic love and enjoyable sexuality. Society expects us to follow a specific trajectory the authors call the "relationship escalator". But love is ever changing in each life, its intensity varies within any relationship and we need to learn how to deal with this. In spite of our culture, there is no "one way" to deal with this without the themes of this book "Trust, Courage, Abundance, Ethics and Empowerment". This book will be of value even to monogamous couples.

They define Courage as a verb, something you have not something you do. Allowing, and trusting, people to make their own choices without trying to control them is scary and knowing they are staying as their own choice is joyful.

Ethical relationships are something we do, not something we have. Being an ethical person means looking at the consequences of our choices on others.

The authors assume that you:

* seek, like most people, to engage in relationships because you value love, connection and belonging

* want your partners to engage in a relationship, and specifically a polyamorous relationship, of their own free will

* want your partners to feel loved, cared for and secure in their relationships with you, and want to feel loved, cared for and secure in your relationships with them

* value honesty in your relationships, which we define as, at minimum, everyone involved with you being aware of the other people you're involved with

* accept that all long-term relationships will contain some conflict, but do not want conflict, anxiety or pain to be a norm, and certainly not more frequent than joy, connection or comfort. …

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