Academic journal article Indian Journal of Positive Psychology

Personality, Subjective Well-Being and Interpersonal Attraction in Adolescents

Academic journal article Indian Journal of Positive Psychology

Personality, Subjective Well-Being and Interpersonal Attraction in Adolescents

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Loving and liking are forms of interpersonal attraction. Such attraction is a common and universal effective response to others. Imagine what it would be like to go through the entire day with no effective responses to others. Suppose, we would not care to be around someone who gives us compliments or makes us happy. All these things matter. We would also not hate an enemy, be bored by an idiot, or feel jealous of a friend. Nevertheless most of us would find that a world without effective reactions either positive or negative would be cold, lifeless, and sterile. Liking and being liked are extremely important for most people, and most of us have a strong bias to like other people.

Interpersonal attraction refers to the attitude one holds about another person, attraction between people which leads to friendships and romantic relationship (Byme, 1973). Attraction has effective, cognitive, and behavioural defined as "an individual's tendency or predisposition to evaluate another person or symbol in a positive or negative way." So attraction may refers to reaction as diverse as father's love for his child, a son's love for his mother, the passion between two lovers, the intimacy of a long married couple, the nostalgic feeling for a childhood friend, the liking for a present companion, or the thought that candidate would make a fine president. Attraction refers to all these states and many more.

Since other human beings constitute the most pervasive and most important situational stimuli to which we respond, the study of interpersonal attraction has long been of interest to the psychologists.

The term "Interpersonal attraction" first received the prominence in an APA (American Psychological Association) Presidential Address by T. New Comb ( 1956) in a report on his longitudinal study of how liking develops among college dorm mates. New Comb's work on attraction was conducted mainly in field as earlier work on networks of choices and rejections had been carried out in class room or campus.

Two well established propositions about the determinants of interpersonal attraction are, first, people tend to like those who like them; second, people tend to like those who share similar values and beliefs. The results of many studies (Berschied & Walster 1969; Bramel, 1969) offer general support for these propositions in a variety of experimental situations. Walster and Walster (1963) found that subjects would rather interact with dissimilar than similar others, if they were assured that the other would like them.

The proposition that we like those who like us implies the interpersonal attraction to be reciprocated in the majority of cases and for a variety of reasons. Those who like us can be counted on to help or at least not to hinder us in our attainment of desirable objectives. Anumberofpsychologists have suggested that the liking of other depend that we have unfavourable attitudes towards our own personal qualities, we are in disagreement with those who hold us in high favour.

Since most of the people do place a positive value on the self, it is not surprising that the proposition of reciprocated attraction is usually confirmed. Number of determinants of interpersonal attraction has been isolated by a variety of studies, but the prominent of these are physical attractiveness, attitudinal and non-attitudinal similarities, propinquity, feelings or emotional arousals. Attraction to an individual of opposite sex is very likely to be strong if that person is physically attractive, expresses positive evaluations and is hard to get for everyone except the potential loved one.

Behaviour influenced by attraction established that we like others better if:

* The environment permits or encourages frequent interaction.

* Prejudicial stereotypes do not interfere with initial reaction.

* There is similarity of attitudes.

* The internal feelings put in a positive mood

* The other person is physically attractive

* That person respond positively to us and

* We interpret the emotional arousal as indicating a positive response towards another. …

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