Psychology Today

Articles from Vol. 50, No. 5, September/October

Asking for a Friend
YOU HAVE JUST met a lovely stranger and you want to make a good impression. How should you handle your end of the conversation? You could describe your recent promotion, new car, or impressive friends. Or you might keep things light and balanced, asking...
Clutter Control
DO YOU LOOK AROUND your home and wonder how you collected so many knickknacks? Likewise, in your office do you see piles of neglected paper? Then there's your calendar that's jammed with endless appointments stretching indefinitely into the future. Even...
Conquering the Divided Self
ONE QUESTION FOR WEIKE WANGWhat happens when you get a degree in chemistry from Harvard, but feel a competing pull to the world of narrative? You write a novel about this combustible state, of course. Weike Wang, Ph.D., is the author of Chemistry, a...
Cruise Control
I AM A 57-YEAR-OLD MAN feeling the pain of terrible conflict. I have been married for 35 years and have four grown children. My marriage is sexless and emotionless; for 15 years my wife and I have had separate bedrooms. I'm in love with a woman who is...
Depressed without Knowing It
I'VE LEARNED A LOT ABOUT what depression looks like through my work treating patients as a clinician. Yet, some years ago, when I gradually slipped into a state of depression myself, I didn't recognize it. If it could fool me, it could fool anyone. Depression...
Feedback
WHY WE WANT WHO WE WANT"The Laws of Attraction" (August) states that, unconsciously or not, we seek partners who resemble us. I would add that the unconscious part of the mind determines whom we find attractive and for whom we feel romantic chemistry....
From Food to Mood
THERE ARE MORE than two pounds of bacteria that make their permanent home in your gut, and scientists increasingly think of them as an auxiliary genome, giving you the DNA for powers that would be hard to pack into your body cells. Cumulatively they...
In the Minds of Dogs
Conversing with CaninesTHINK CATIN THE HAT FOR TALKING TO DOGS.IF YOU WANT to start an argument among psychologists, behavioral biologists, and next-door-neighbor dog owners, just ask the question: Do dogs understand and use language? The argument tends...
Quest for Fire
VICTORIA FELT HER ONCE-ROBUST LUST her husband start to wane when she was in her early 30s, though she 'chalked it up to life drcumstances-she was a busy mother of three young children. But after her fourth child was bom, when she was 34, her yeamingforsexflatlinedpermanently....
States of Alarm
FEAR IS POWERFUL, butsoisthefeeling it often sparks in others: compassion. The Fear Factor is nominally a book about the first but delvesdeeply into the latter-the urge to help other people that most humans experience to an extent, some (such as psychopaths)...
Talking of Taste
MOST PEOPLE agree that there are a handful of basic tastes-four or five, depending on whether you count umami, the most recent and still-contested addition, while a proposed sixth taste, kokumi, hovers on the culinary cutting edge. But the identification...
The Big Data Bull's - Eye
Each yearn before their annual meeting on machine learning, a group of electrical engineers who work with huge sets of data dream up a problem for their peers to solve. Most of the themes have dealt with arcane engineering topics, but three years ago...
The Big Picture
IT THIS VERY MOMENT, someone may be looking at you-? photo of you, that is. He may be swiping right on Tinder, browsing your Linkedln profile, or scrolling through your Facebook page. She could be your future spouse, your next boss, a budding client,...
The Hardest Word
"I CAN'T SAY NO," says Madhavi Dandu, a professor and clinician at the University of California, San Francisco School of Medicine. Tve always been that way. Most of the time I've framed it as: There are a lot of things I want to do. But now that I have...
The High Cost of Saying No for a Living
MOST OF US STRUGGLE to say no to minor requests from friends and family, but some people are paid to turn people down, all day long, and it's no easier for them. Dan Evans was an admissions officerfor 14 years, most recently atthe University of Pennsylvania,...
The Lure of Charisma
PACING IN A RED HOODIE, punctuating his words with a hand wave, he implored those kneeling around him not to be "selfish" in the struggle ahead and to take fate into their own hands: "You control the outcomes of everything that happens to you, by the...
The Mind's White Space
IT IS DIFFICULT to say no to others, as evidenced by our cover story, "The Hardest Word." But it is hard to say no to oneself for entirely different reasons. A never-ending negativity bias compels us to look for what's missing in every room, routine,...
The Seer of AI
THE ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE revolution is here, and MIT physics ? professor Max Tegmark believes the implications are vaster than most of us imagine. Tegmark, cofounder and president of the Future of Life Institute, believes that as technology gives...
Under the Skin
KEEPING A SECRET sometimes requires deliberate acts of deception, like diverting attention midway through a sensitive conversation or striking certain details from a story about what you did last night. But new research suggests that it is a secret's...
Weapons of Mass Persuasion
EVERYONE FROM the president to your neighbor deploys strategies to bring people over to his or her way of thinking, but many backfire. In The Influential Mind, cognitive neuroscientist Tali Sharot introduces some less intuitive tactics for changing beliefs...
When the Ground Cracked
THE BLIND DATE had been arranged by a friend of mine who thought that this young man and I were perfect for each other. He was a firstyear law student who knew many of my friends. I was a senior in college, a few months away from graduating and awash...
Why Do We Lash Out?
AFTER BANGING our heads against the figurative wall to try to solve a problem, we may feel tempted to take out frustration on an unlucky bystander. A report in the Journal ofExperimental Social Psychology proposes one reason for this behavior: It could...
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