Family Therapy Networker

Articles from Vol. 24, No. 4, July/August

AROUND THE NETWORK; Fighting Words on Gender Equity: Are Boys under Siege in School?
A surprising argument in the May issue of The Atlantic Monthly magazine has raised the hackles of many family therapists, as well as feminists. "The War Against Boys" by Christina Hoff Sommers challenges the view widely held in the 1990s that boys...
BOOKMARKS; A Man for Our Seasons: Erik Erickson Framed the Problems Family Therapists Struggle with Today
The Erik Erikson Reader Edited By Robert Coles W.W. Norton & Co. 526 pp. ISBN 0-393-04845-4 Reviewed by Michele Bograd No one's books are more commonly displayed in therapists' offices as a badge of professional seriousness than the works...
CASE STUDIES; the Remarriage Box Ritual: Helping Stepfamilies Differentiate between Fear and Reality
At the beginning of the 21st century, remarriage is nearly as common as first marriages, yet more than 60 percent of remarriages end in divorce. Studies show that second marriages in which there are children in the family are twice as likely to end...
Chained to the Desk: Work May Be the Great Unexamined Therapy Issue of Our Time
There was a time when I needed my work--and hid it from others--the way my alcoholic father needed and hid his bourbon. And just as I once tried to control my father's drinking by pouring out his booze and refilling the bottle with vinegar, the people...
CLINICIAN'S DIGEST: Giving Voice to the Voiceless
Every Clinician's Digest consists of several brief (400-500 word) articles of specific clinical relevance to therapists. For technical reasons, it is impossible to provide a Preview of the individual articles within a Digest.The subject of your search...
FAMILY MATTERS; at the Doorstep: In Times of Trouble, Often All That's Needed Is Showing Up
One early summer morning, I stood outside a stranger's house in my Colorado town. My official city badge pinned to my shirt and a pager on my belt, I was armed with a briefcase stuffed with the tools of my trade: tissues, flashlight, blanket and...
GETTING UNSTUCK; When Worlds Collide: Helping Couples Survive Life-Cycle Clashes
Q:  Lately, I have been working with a number of couples who are battling over retirement--the husbands are older and ready to retire, but the wives are in the middle of successful careers. How can I help them establish a new equilibrium when their...
Making Friends with Your Addiction: Letter-Writing Can Be a Powerful Clinical Tool
When I first met 14-year-old Miranda, she had a full head of frizzy pink hair and a sassy, cooler-than-thou persona to match. She also had the physical symptoms of alcoholism usually found in adults twice her age, including stomach ulcers, a fatty...
Of Addiction and Accountability
Sitting at the airport recently, I overheard a couple behind me quarreling. I tuned in somewhere in the "Yes, she is" - "No, she isn't!" part of the argument, when the woman suddenly said, "They're both addicts; they just 'fix' on different things."...
Reassembling the Self: Making Psychology Relevant to the Post-Prozac Generation
Here's the scene: my doctor's office, packets of trial-size Viagra in ridiculously erect stacks upon his desk; in a bowl, a scramble of candied goods in blister pouches-- the by-now-passe´ Prozac, the mild, middle of the road Zoloft, the newer, niftier...
SCREENING ROOM; Dressed to Kill: Today, Stylish Is Bad, Tacky and Grungy Is Good
"Clothes," we used to be told, "make the man" and, presumably, the woman. Clothes serve functions far beyond the practical ones of clothing our biblical nakedness, providing warmth and protection, shielding our physical blemishes, excesses and inadequacies...
The Four Most Common Mistakes in Treating Teens
Most therapists agree that teenagers can be among the most difficult clients we see in our practice. They often refuse to attend sessions, refuse to speak when they do attend, swear at parents and therapist, and storm out of the room when they hear things...