Magazine article Black Enterprise

Just as You Are: A Healthy Self-Acceptance Is a Meaningful Trait to Possess

Magazine article Black Enterprise

Just as You Are: A Healthy Self-Acceptance Is a Meaningful Trait to Possess

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"I've accepted my reality I was meant to sound the way I do.

--Kathleen Battle

Every June, T pull out my list of New Year's resolutions for a midyear assessment. It's not a formal ritual. I just do it to remind myself of goals and hopes for the year.

I keep my resolutions taped to the left-band corner of my top desk drawer, so all that's involved is pulling the drawer out, clearing the clutter away, and reading. It's about a 10-item list.

The top two are usually family-oriented: Really listen to the people I love. Spend more time with my parents. A few are usually work-related and have something to do with writing my next book. or two, or three. There are always at least two spirit-tending goals (savor more, worry less) followed by some sort of nod to better health (eat more salad). And then there's the perennial final entry--it just wouldn't be New Year's without it: Lose 10 pounds!

As I check my progress, I typically discover a distinct lack of it. I can usually pat myself on the back for making strides in at least three areas. But that next book has been riding the list for a few years now, right alongside those lovely 10 pounds. Then there's at least one resolution that I've since decided doesn't matter at all. Some years, it's that last one. Which got me to thinking, what if one of my resolutions was to accept, myself just as I am? In fact, what if one year that was my only resolution?

At the start of each year, most of us get so focused on what we want to change about ourselves that we completely neglect the notion that we're fine. …

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