Magazine article The Advocate (The national gay & lesbian newsmagazine)

The Potluck Club

Magazine article The Advocate (The national gay & lesbian newsmagazine)

The Potluck Club

Article excerpt

I love Pride Month and all, but in recent years it's been missing something: the lesbian potluck. Late last year, to mark my girlfriend's return to health, I decided to revive that old custom.

When we invited some friends who had not come up or out in the lesbian separatist ranks--either because they'd come out late in life or because they were too young--they were nervous. Yes, even though they were accomplished professionals and slick postchic L's, they were intimidated by our little potluck.

I explained that years ago, when lesbians were isolated and invisible, potlucks were a way to build community. I reassured them that I would guide them through the ancient potluckian rituals: their choice of flannel [no pinks], the pheromonic properties of patchouli, and the uses of tofu.

We gathered, happy to see each other, giving actual hugs instead of instant message greetings or voices left on answering machines. We realized that though we had been in cyber contact, we had not been in actual physical contact.

I had made deft food group assignments, and our guests fulfilled them brilliantly. Always ask the Libra couple to bring dessert. They could not decide, so brought a dessert dim sum. After the main dish of dish, the conversations flowed from film to nanotechnology, nonmonogamy, art, same-old-sex marriage, the patriarchy. After so many dinners ruined during that fall's political season by someone banging her forehead on the table moaning "Whadderwegonnado?" it was a bracing, fun night. …

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