Magazine article Insight on the News

Mom-and-Dad Homes Help Mold Healthy Kids

Magazine article Insight on the News

Mom-and-Dad Homes Help Mold Healthy Kids

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In deciding who should raise children, society's primary concern must be what is in the best interest of the child. Parents' rights should be protected and the state should intrude only when a child is in a highrisk situation. An openly homosexual household constitutes such a risk.

This issue is climaxing in child custody litigation, with mixed rulings. In June, a Virginia appeals court overruled a decision to award custody of a 2-year-old boy to his grandmother because his mother, Sharon Lynne Bottoms, has a live-in lesbian lover. The appeals court ruled that the mother's sexual preference is irrelevant. In April, a Washington judge denied custody of a 2-year-old girl to two gay men, citing a District of Columbia law forbidding an unmarried couple -- homosexual or heterosexual -- from adopting the same child. Homosexual "marriage" is not legal in Washington or anywhere else in the United States.

Regardless of what courts rule, children need a same-sex and an opposite-sex parent to have the best chance to develop healthy sexual identities. Those in single-parent households already are disadvantaged because one of the sexes is missing. Some single parents understand this "gender deficit" and work mightily to ensure that their children receive guidance from grandparents or other role models who repressent the sexes evenly. In a homosexual household, the problem is compounded by the embrace of same-sex sexuality within the home itself. Children, who in an androgynous culture are having an increasingly hard time trying to establish basic, confident gender identities, cannot possibly be helped by seeing "mom" kiss "mom" or "dad" kiss "dad."

Proponents of homosexual parenting often defend their view as an issue of freedom and individual rights. But adopting children is not a right. Children are not commodities to be parceled out. Nor are they guinea pigs to be used in experiments in "alternative" sexuality. They are individuals with psychological, emotional, social and developmental needs. And societies the world over, for thousands of years, have found that children thrive best in families with mothers and fathers.

The driving force behind gay parenting seems to be legitimation of the homosexual lifestyle more than what is best for children. In The Lesbian and Gay Parenting Handbook, author April Martin reveals why she and her lesbian lover decided to switch sperm donors for "their" second child: The donor "might become a great deal more psychologically important in our lives than we intended. The children would be biologically related to each other through the sperm donor, deriving from the donor a link that we could never give them. It felt more comfortable, then, to have different donors."

So the children's genetic history, in effect, is being engineered to comfortably facilitate a lesbian relationship. Never mind that the children are missing out on life with father.

Homosexual activists often say that family makeup is irrelevant because homosexuals are "born that way," just like heterosexuals. But the weight of studies -- even those by homosexual researchers -- shows that children in homosexual households are four times as likely to identify with homosexuality. Furthermore, no credible evidence exists that homosexuality has a genetic link. Seventy years of studies and therapeutic experience clearly indicate that homosexuality is a genderidentity problem stemming from environmental factors in early childhood. Masters and Johnson reported in 1984 a 71 percent success rate in therapy for homosexuals wanting to change their orientation, and thousands of homosexuals have been freed with help from gender-identity therapy and exgay ministries.

Homosexual-parenting activists also assert that if a parent loves the child, the parent's sexuality or sexual preferences make no difference. The good intentions of all would-be homosexual parents are not being challenged here. …

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