Brian Fricke wanted to follow in the footsteps of his grandfather, who served as a sergeant in the Marines. So he joined the elite fighting corps in 2000.
Fricke knew, even as a teenager, that to join the armed forces meant giving up personal freedoms. What he didn't realize was how much more difficult that would be for a gay man--who would have to be closeted.
Two years later, while he was stationed in Okinawa, Japan. Fricke had had enough. A friend and fellow marine was going on about having sex with women when Fricke blurted out, "You know, I'm not attracted to women."
Fricke, now a sergeant, says he half-expected to be kicked out of the military right then and there. But his peer's reaction shocked him: "Oh, really? That's no big deal."
"No big deal?" Fricke recalls thinking at the time. "Despite the type about 'don't ask, don't tell' and the trouble gays would cause in the ranks [if they were allowed to serve openly], it was not that big of a deal. And it wouldn't be today. I remained Corporal Fricke, and I happened to be gay."
Indeed, a recent Zogby poll shows that 73% of service members say they would be comfortable serving alongside gays and lesbians. A poll in 1993--the year the Pentagon's antigay "don't ask, don't tell" policy went into effect--reported that only 13% of enlisted personnel supported gay soldiers, demonstrating why there is now a strong push to end the ban on gays serving openly. A bill to repeal "don't ask, don't tell" is being reintroduced this year in Congress. It's gaining an impressive list of cosponsors, while the list of retired military leaders publicly coming out against the ban is growing into an all-star gallery of top brass.
In January, John M. Shalikashvili, retired chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, and former secretary of Defense William Cohen both publicly urged Congress to reconsider the "don't ask, don't tell" policy [see sidebar].
The Zogby poll showed that nearly one in four service member report knowing that someone in their unit is gay or lesbian, including 21% of those in combat units. "We have known anecdotally that many gay service members are opening up to at least some of their colleagues," says Steve Ralls, communications director for the Service-members Legal Defense Network, a Washington, D.C.-based group advocating for gay soldiers. "And those who know a gay colleague are more open to repealing this discriminatory policy."
Aaron Belkin, director of the Michael D. Palm Center (formerly known as the Center for the Study of Sexual Minorities in the Military) at the University of California, Santa Barbara, helped design the poll to test whether the statistics would bear out the anecdotal evidence. "In one sense the change is surprising because it has only been a decade and a half since the policy was instituted," says Belkin. "But there has been huge cultural change and public opinion shift in that time, and that affects the opinions of those who serve in the military."
So why hasn't the ban gone the the way of segregation, especially during a time when qualified personnel are desperately needed overseas? The problem, says Vince Patton, 52, a retired U.S. Coast Guard master chief petty officer, is that people from his generation are just plain stuck. "Gen Xers are more accepting of gays and lesbians and more tolerant in general," he says. "It's more than just an issue of sexual orientation for them. It's a matter of freedom of expression. The under-40 crowd has a lot more intelligence when it comes to these issues than those from my era."
In 2003, Patton participated in "Operation Handshake" as an adviser to the USO, spending three weeks with U.S. troops in the Persian Gulf and Southwest Asia. While talking with soldiers during a tour of Afghanistan, he asked them if they had any problems serving alongside gays. No one expressed a negative opinion.
The soldiers cared only whether their fellow soldiers were willing to do the job and watch their backs, Patton recalls. …