Magazine article U.S. Catholic

You Don't Complete Me

Magazine article U.S. Catholic

You Don't Complete Me

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No one could ever accuse me of being a princess. As a child, my favorite Cinderella characters were the talking mice, and I definitely preferred Sebastian, the wise lobster, to that pretty Ariel in The Little Mermaid. Pink wasn't my color, and I for sure wasn't holding out for Prince Charming. I could rescue myself, thank you very much. Of course I wanted love and happiness, and marriage and kids, but the idea of my one and only, my knight in shining armor, my soul mate, just wasn't on the radar.

However, it turns out that such a mindset would put me in the minority among young adult Catholics, but not among our readers and website visitors. Christine B. Whelan writes in "Only you? Shattering the myth of a soul mate" (pages 12-16) that most 20- to 30-somethings today are in a frantic search for their celestial second half, but it comes with a catch--and not a tall, "dark, and handsome one, either. When we put someone on a pedestal, designating him or her as the one the heavens hand-picked just for us, it sets us up for major disappointment when things don't go smoothly.

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One disturbing trend Whelan discovers is that many young Catholics who are actively pursuing their soul mates overlook the importance of shared religion or faith while putting superficial "requirements" such as looks or wealth toward the top of their list. She instead encourages Catholics to value shared faith, to be a part of the greater church community, because it is one of the biggest support groups around. …

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