Magazine article Management Today

What's Your Problem?

Magazine article Management Today

What's Your Problem?

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It's quite extraordinary the effect that a single, determined action can have on self-confidence.

Q: I was recently offered a job, which I accepted, as I desperately wanted to leave my current post because of a line manager who was bullying me. Then I discovered that the pay for the new job was less than they had told me at the interview. So I turned down the offer and stayed with my old job. That was two months ago now, and the bullying is worse than ever. My partner has been supportive and I do want to find a new job, but I'm worried about our finances. I've recently been signed off sick again, due to stress. The only things that keep me at my desk are the clients and supportive colleagues. What should I do?

A: Bullying is vile. It also seems to be disturbingly common. And one of its most insidious effects is this: it leaves its victims feeling in some undefinable sense responsible for their own victimisation. Bullied people, though knowing it not to be true, somehow believe themselves to be the ones at fault.

In your case, it has clearly got to your confidence. The fact that you're off work with stress almost certainly means that you'll find it even harder than usual to make difficult decisions. …

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