Magazine article The Advocate (The national gay & lesbian newsmagazine)

Work It Out

Magazine article The Advocate (The national gay & lesbian newsmagazine)

Work It Out

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When the ex is a coworker, where's the line between business and revenge? Ethical pro STEPHEN MILIOTI explains.

Q: I dated a coworker for two years, but we split up a few months ago, and we're still tense around each other. My boss is a good friend and gave me a shoulder to cry on during the breakup. My ex is applying to work on my project, but I could probably get my boss to derail that application and send him to another division of the company. May I use that influence?

No, big guy. You may not. Unless we're talking about a tiny three-person company where people can bring their pet lizards to the office, I have to vote for total professionalism and fairness here. Here's why:

I don't doubt your boss is your friend. And there's nothing inherently wrong with blurring the friend/boss lines--it happens a lot. But remember, you have a professional relationship in addition to a friendship; and, similarly, he is evaluating you on both a friendship and professional level. …

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