Magazine article Canadian Dimension

Mother Meet Crone

Magazine article Canadian Dimension

Mother Meet Crone

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MY MENSTRUATION'S out of whack. I missed my cycle last month. And my breasts are very tender. That hasn't happened to me since I became pregnant with my son. He's now fifteen.

I'm closer to fifty than to forty. A friend is fifty and the mother of a two-year-old. It's her right, her choice. But it wouldn't necessarily be mine. Pregnancy should be impossible for me, because my partner had "the snip" shortly after our son's birth. And I haven't been sleeping around.

When I finally told him that either I was pregnant or something weird was going on he assured me that a vasectomy rarely fails. In fact, the rate of failure is less than two tenths of a per cent. And, after almost fifteen years, failure is nigh on impossible!

We googled "menopause symptoms," and that, as I had gleefully suspected, revealed that missed periods and tender breasts are both symptoms common to women who are entering menopause. I have experienced other perimenopausal symptoms over the past few years--occasional hot flushes and night sweats--but I didn't want to get my hopes up or jinx it by admitting to myself that I was at the end of my childbearing years. I'm quite ready to embrace menopause, to toss the rag. I have two kids and a fulfilling career. Bring it on, I say!

Other friends aren't quite as excited as I am about the prospect of moving into this third phase, that of the Crone, in their lives. One friend says she's not yet ready to give up her child bearing years and feels very sad about it. …

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