Magazine article Policy & Practice

Contacting Former Spouses as Part of the Adoption and Foster Home Study Process

Magazine article Policy & Practice

Contacting Former Spouses as Part of the Adoption and Foster Home Study Process

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Selecting an adoptive or foster placement for a child is a major decision that has lifelong ramifications. An agency must consider numerous factors before approving the suitability of the placement. A comprehensive assessment of the applicant will include the applicant's strengths, skills, training needs, areas for improvement, and family circumstances. During the home study process personal inquiries are made, many of which may seem intrusive. One possible inquiry is: Should, may, or must the former spouse of a prospective adoptive or foster parent be contacted by the agency as part of the home study process?

Researchers estimate that 40 percent to 50 percent of all first marriages in the United States will end in divorce or permanent separation. The risk of divorce for second marriages is about 60 percent.

Following a divorce, ex-spouses, especially if they were co-parents, redefine their communication patterns and the rules about how they relate to each other. A wide variety of new structural factors may affect the perception of their ex-spouse. If the relationship was abusive or divisive, renegotiating these boundaries, perceptions, and communication patterns will be challenging and ambiguous at best. Along with this ambiguity, ex-spouses report a sense of loss of various dimensions of their parental role. This being the case, how credible is an ex-spouse's opinion of their former partner? Should home study workers ignore an ex-spouse's opinion completely, or seek it out and then temper this information using their best judgment?

Golda Zimmerman, a retired New York attorney, and an acknowledged expert in the field, says: "The short answer is "no," a former spouse should not be contacted, but a copy of the divorce decree and a number of standard questions should be asked. If any red flags are evident, then further inquiries should be made." As Zimmerman suggests, an agency may have legitimate reasons to make contact with an applicant's partners from previous relationships. Here are some lead-up questions to elicit such information:

* Have you been previously married?

* How many times, and for how long were you married?

* What are the names and present addresses of any former spouses?

* What are the names and present addresses of any children from all previous marriages?

* If you have been previously married, why did the marriage end?

* Are you in touch with your former spouse and children?

* What is your relationship with your former spouse and children like now?

* Would you mind if we contact your former spouse and children?

* Would you please supply us with copies of all divorce decrees? …

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