Magazine article Working Mother

Ask Dr. Howard

Magazine article Working Mother

Ask Dr. Howard

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My son has started telling little white lies. How can we get him back to the truth?

All parents hope their kids will have integrity. That's why a boy who tells a few lies, even though it's a normal behavior, can shake a parent's faith in his character. How you react to lying and other moral issues can make a big difference in how your child adjusts his actions and values.

Set an example. Children are most likely to do what they see their parents do. So show honesty both at home and in public. Apologize for your mistakes to foster the same behavior in your child.

Understand when it's a wish and not a lie. A child may say he scored a basket when he did not. In that case, rather than scold him for lying, you might say, "You sure wish you could have scored a basket."

Don't ask for the truth if you know it. For example, there's a crash and you see the lamp on the floor. Don't ask, "Did you break the lamp?" Your child is more likely to fib to avoid a consequence. …

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