Magazine article The Spectator

Dear Mary Your Problems Solved

Magazine article The Spectator

Dear Mary Your Problems Solved

Article excerpt

Q. A close friend is attractive and clever, but does not have a boyfriend and would be far too shy to try internet or speed dating. She lives, platonically, in London with a man who works with her but he does not have a wide circle of friends and has been no good at introducing her to anyone. There is no one suitable in her office. She cannot face looking desperate at a singles dinner party. What should she do, Mary? She is 32.

- T.T. , York

A. It may seem 30 years too early for your friend to learn bridge, but with this skill under her belt, all sorts of doors will open with the minimum of pushing. Once inside, she will find a surprising number of people of her own age who have become bored by the zombie company of drinking and drug-taking contemporaries. With no discrimination on grounds of class, age, looks, money or milieu, a self-filtering elite based on brain power is taking shape. Bridge schools, bridge clubs and bridge parties are the perfect way to get to know people of compatible intelligence and sensibilities. She should rope in her lodger to learn as well. They will find all sorts of access is enabled.

Q. In our local Waitrose at about 5.30 p.m. , I ran into a writer who lives in the street I have moved into and who, as a fan of her writing, I would like to know better. She is my age and, on the three occasions we have met, she has been friendly and fun. She normally looks very cool but on this occasion I could see a line a few centimetres long of grey hair at the roots of the auburn hair I had thought natural. She told me she was rushing home and then out to a book awards party. …

Search by... Author
Show... All Results Primary Sources Peer-reviewed

Oops!

An unknown error has occurred. Please click the button below to reload the page. If the problem persists, please try again in a little while.