Magazine article Work & Family Life

Interchange: 'My 13-Year-Old Doesn't Want to Be Seen with Me'

Magazine article Work & Family Life

Interchange: 'My 13-Year-Old Doesn't Want to Be Seen with Me'

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My 13-year-old wants to be picked up around the corner from her friend's house and walk behind me at the mall. Why the sudden urge to not be seen with me?

B.C., Madison, WI

This often happens with early adolescents, so don't take it personally. Your daughter wants more autonomy but she knows how dependent she is on you. Young teens try to hide this dependence from their friends (who are trying to do the same thing themselves). At the same time, parents are no longer the wonderful creatures they once were, and our flaws (both real and imagined) become embarrassing.

* Encourage your daughter's autonomy. For example, before you go to the movies, give your daughter money so she can buy the tickets and popcorn herself. This will give her some control and a feeling of being grownup. Letting her invite a friend to come along is also a good idea. …

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