Newspaper article Evening Chronicle (Newcastle, England)

Dear Fiona

Newspaper article Evening Chronicle (Newcastle, England)

Dear Fiona

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Byline: By Fiona Caine

Write to Fiona Caine if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem. You can also email her (mail@askfiona.net). All letters are treated in complete confidence. Fiona regrets she cannot enter into personal correspondence nor pass letters on to other readers.

Q. I was meant to be spending the Christmas holidays with my boyfriend and his family. However, we've just split up and, as this is my third failed relationship in the past 18 months, I am worried. I suppose it's because I don't get overly-excited when men come on to me. Why can't I respond more to these guys? Should I stop dating until I've learned how to respond like a grown-up?

A. These guys may have been fun to have around but I suspect you were not really attracted to any of them so it's not surprising you were unable to respond to them more positively. Please don't see this as a problem. It simply means you've yet to meet someone who lights your fire! In the meantime, there's no reason why you shouldn't continue to go out with guys who are good fun. Just don't feel pressured in making responses to them.

Q. My second child is due in about four months and I am worried sick. There's no reason to be. My first childbirth went smoothly and all the scans and tests this time around have shown my baby is fine. However, I can't shake the feeling that something is going to go wrong. My five-year-old daughter is frightened by the fact her mother keeps crying and, although I know it's upsetting her, there's nothing I can do to stop it. My husband can't comfort her when I get like this because he's away on business for the next couple of months. If I'd known having a second baby would be this terrifying and affect my family so much I'd never have become pregnant. What's wrong with me? I should be able to cope better than this.

A. While some aspects of this pregnancy are no doubt similar to what you experienced first time around, your personal situation is very different now. For a start, you have the responsibility of looking after a young daughter. Moreover, you're facing these worries and the task of running your home on your own. …

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