Newspaper article Evening Chronicle (Newcastle, England)

Dear Fiona

Newspaper article Evening Chronicle (Newcastle, England)

Dear Fiona

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Byline: By Fiona Caine

Write to Fiona Caine or e-mail her at if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem. All letters are treated in complete confidence. Fiona regrets that she cannot enter into personal correspondence nor pass letters on to other readers.

Q. I've just hit my 40s and everything seems to be going downhill. I'm constantly tired and weepy, I've put on loads of weight, I've lost all interest in sex and my once-regular periods have become a complete mystery. My husband is patient and kind but I know he is getting fed-up. My friend says I am probably menopausal and ought to go on HRT but surely I can't be already? And if I went on HRT, would things improve?

A. The symptoms you are describing could indeed be menopausal and although you are still young, I am afraid you are quite old enough to start displaying them! However, the best person to tell you for sure is your GP. It could be that your doctor decides that HRT will be ideal for you but as you are quite young, it may be there are other things he wants to try first. Everyone reacts differently to medication and for some women it makes them feel worse. It can occasionally take a lot of trial and error to find exactly the right prescription, and so rather than relying on a chemical lift to boost your mood you should consider exercise. Regular exercise will lift your mood, assist with weight loss and give you more energy. If this is an early menopause, weight-bearing exercise is important in the prevention of osteoporosis (brittle bones).

Q. I'm sick to death of my husband's treatment of me. He makes out I am incapable, inefficient and hopeless and is forever putting me down publicly. For the past 18 years I've put up with this for the sake of my children. When I complain, he tells me I'm overly sensitive and other people find him funny. If I say nothing, he says something like "I'm glad you see I'm right".

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