Newspaper article Evening Chronicle (Newcastle, England)

GUIDE TO LIFE; in Association with the NHS North East

Newspaper article Evening Chronicle (Newcastle, England)

GUIDE TO LIFE; in Association with the NHS North East

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Byline: JAYNE GOLDSTONE

DO YOU let your head rule your heart? Have you ever tried it the other way around? Two years before I met my husband I was going through a really difficult and painful time and my work (I was an HR manager at the time) was making me very miserable and unhappy. Looking back on that time I can now see that I was daft enough to allow this to happen. I'd work ridiculously long hours for a director of a company where nothing I did was ever good enough. On the one hand he needed someone in the company who had good interpersonal skills and on the other hand resented me for this because he didn't have people skills himself. Frankly he was a bully. This cycle had a huge impact on the way I felt about myself and I dreaded going to work each day, having put up with this for four and half years.

I was stressed out beyond words, couldn't sleep well and found myself doubting my decisions and capabilities. I went to see my doctor who wanted to put me on anti depressants but I knew this wasn't the answer for me.

I asked if I could be referred to a counsellor so I could talk to someone about my issues. What a wise decision that was as I discovered during that two-year journey much more about myself, and that actually I was quite a nice person, and an efficient one after all. After working in an environment that was toxic and suffocating, for a man who was so unpleasant, the day I left that company was a huge turning point in my life. Not knowing what I wanted to do, I took a job for a six-month period covering for a woman on maternity leave, knowing this would give me time to start focusing on my career. It was during that period that after some encouragement from certain friends, I started the process of internet dating. I listened to my heart when I met my husband and three months later relocated to the North East from London, something I have never regretted as I knew it was right for me. …

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