Newspaper article The Morning Bulletin (Rockhampton, Australia)

It's All about Ticker, You See; Give Too Little, Expect Too Much, Draw Fuzzy Boundaries, Make Half-Arsed Excuses {Hellip} but Look at Them. They're Going to Antarctica

Newspaper article The Morning Bulletin (Rockhampton, Australia)

It's All about Ticker, You See; Give Too Little, Expect Too Much, Draw Fuzzy Boundaries, Make Half-Arsed Excuses {Hellip} but Look at Them. They're Going to Antarctica

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Byline: CARRIE COX carrieon@bigpond.com www.carrie-on-columns.blogspot.com

ONE of my new year's resolutions is to be nicer to my husband.

Sure, this was directly inspired by a Christmas present exchange involving an oversized shirt, an unwanted domestic appliance and about 400 mixed signals, but it also drew puff from the current global financial situation: give too little, expect too much, draw fuzzy boundaries, make half-arsed excuses - bam! Colossal crisis on your hands. Point taken.

Coincidentally on the first day of the new year, a couple I know celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary. I went along to their surprise luncheon party with a hidden agenda: to observe how a couple in love for more than four decades still communicates.

Short answer: they don't. Not really. After 40 years, communication has been whittled back like old wood - no less pure but greatly refined. Artfully shaped by subtle nuances; moulded by an artist that no longer needs to look. Everything that needs to be said already has, and that which shouldn't be uttered (like "Hey, my dog could've bought me a better Christmas present!") simply isn't.

It's efficient but it's also a little sad - a fact thankfully not lost on the couple in question. In a bid to reclaim some of the wonder and derring-do of their earlier years, said couple is about to head off to Antarctica. Cold. Bracing. Dangerous. Amazing. If this doesn't shake them out of their familiar slumber, they figure, nothing will.

"Wow, Antarctica!" a niece said to the couple at their special luncheon. "That's the trip of a lifetime. How are you going to top it? Like, what will you do for your 50th?"

"Well," said the wife, thinking carefully. "I might go back and get him."

(Boom-tish! That's actually an internet joke but it's early in the year and I figure a lot of you aren't back into reading mode yet. …

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