Newspaper article Sunshine Coast Daily (Maroochydore, Australia)

White Lies Keep Peace

Newspaper article Sunshine Coast Daily (Maroochydore, Australia)

White Lies Keep Peace

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Byline: RENEE SKELLY

aDOES my bum look big in this?a

Those seven little words, when uttered by a woman, can strike fear into the heart of even the bravest bloke.

In that dreaded moment, the man must choose his answer very carefully or risk the consequences: cold dinners and nights spent banished to the couch to sleep.

A reply of ano darling, you look lovelya, even though the initial thought process was somewhat different, is commonly known as the little white lie a a peace-keeping tactic in relationships, and a common part of many people's everyday interactions with others.

Author of the newly released Lie Catcher, Dr David Craig, says white lies are usually innocent and everyone is guilty of using them a some more regularly than others.

aWhite lies are the harmless things we tell people to make them feel better,a he said.

aIf a friend asks you if you like their new shoes and you say yes, even though in your head you thought something different, that's a white lie.

aTelling somebody their outfit isn't particularly flattering, when in your mind you actually thought, a[approximately]Wow, that makes them look fat' is also a kind of white lie.a

Dr Craig said the most common lies told in relationships were the classic lines aI'm finea and ait's not you, it's mea.

For Dr Craig, the line between a harmless white lie and something more sinister is the point at which the lie could have negative consequences for somebody else.

He said people should always make the effort to be completely truthful on all occasions but when it came to a lie, the liar needed to aweigh up other people's feelings, the consequences of the lie and it's potential to harm other peoplea.

aYou need to use your moral compass,a he said.

aThink about how guilty you might feel if you were discovered in the lie and if there would be a necessity to keep telling (more) lies.a

Dr Craig's interest in covert communications led him to a Doctorate in Law, comparing the covert operations of the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom and the Netherlands.

He has written several articles on the topic but Lie Catcher, which is set to be released on Monday, is his first. …

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