Newspaper article Evening Gazette (Middlesbrough, England)

The Mums Who Know; Helping to Solve Your Family Dilemmas Are Trained Children's Counsellors and Mums Gill Lynas, Right, and Emma Hughes. Both with a Background in Schools, Together They Run the Norton-Based Children's Therapeutic Play and Young Persons' Counselling Service. Starts Next Week

Newspaper article Evening Gazette (Middlesbrough, England)

The Mums Who Know; Helping to Solve Your Family Dilemmas Are Trained Children's Counsellors and Mums Gill Lynas, Right, and Emma Hughes. Both with a Background in Schools, Together They Run the Norton-Based Children's Therapeutic Play and Young Persons' Counselling Service. Starts Next Week

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Meet Gill Lynas and Emma Hughes - our new mums ready to help solve all your parenting dilemmas. Next Friday we'll be launching our brand new weekly Mums Know Best column. And our pair of experts - who run the Norton-based Children's Therapeutic Play and Young Persons Counselling Service - will be offering advice and guidance on all kinds of family matters. But what of the mums themselves? MARIE TURBILL put them under the parenting spotlight.

Introducing Gill ...

GILL LYNAS, of Eaglescliffe, is mum to a grown up daughter, Laurie, 26. She is a former nurse, works as a school counsellor and is now a trained psychotherapeutic counsellor for children and young people.

So we asked...

Gill, what's the best thing about being a mum? "There are lots of things, too many to say. I guess the main one is having a loving relationship."

And the hardest? "Watching them hurt and not being able to make it better."

How would you describe your parenting style? "Firm but fair and always available to listen. Even when you are absolutely whacked you should always keep the conversation flowing."

Has your work influenced your parenting skills/techniques? "It has to a point but I think my early parenting skills came from observation of my sisters with their children. I think they are really good parents, so you learn from your extended family."

Are you ever really an expert in parenting? "Nobody is an expert, you are not born a parent it is something we all have to learn. I imagine if you have more than one child some things are easier second time round but every child is an individual so it's a different experience each time."

What's your proudest moment as a mum so far? "The moment Laurie was born, I was overwhelmed." And your most embarrassing moment? "When she announced to a party of new colleagues I had invited round that the expensive looking pink Champagne flutes they were admiring were a bargain at pounds 1.50 each. That's the one that sticks in my mind." What was the best tip you were given? "When a baby cries you pick them up. I don't agree with this thing about letting them cry, it just traumatises them. Crying is their way of communicating."

And what is the one parenting dilemma that left you stumped? "It was the independence thing when Laurie was 14. At that age they think they are adults and start wanting to go out around the streets, but do you let them go? If you say no you risk them lying. In the end I compromised, I would let her go out but she had to be back at a certain time, no matter what. That way we built trust together. Once they get to 11 or 12 they know what's right and wrong, and if you bring them up with self respect you have to trust that they will make the right decisions."

Introducing Emma ... MUM-OF-ONE Emma Hughes lives in Billingham with her husband Ian and their one-year-old daughter, Kyah Grace. …

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