Newspaper article The Queensland Times (Ipswich, Australia)

The Mother of All Debates

Newspaper article The Queensland Times (Ipswich, Australia)

The Mother of All Debates

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OPINION: "No one questions why a father would have children, and then leave them all day to work. No one questions a father's love for his children. No one comments that a father isn't raising his children when he works five days a week. So why are we still placing cruel and unnecessary guilt on mothers?" Do you agree?

I STAYED at home for two years then returned to work. Now I work fulltime and do it for the money, not for the love of work. Yes, I cop the criticism from stay at home mums: "Oh, why do you work so much?" Um, well... I see no point being at home all day cooking and cleaning and doing all that when I can work and provide more for my family and still play house wife, etc. I have weekends for the rest. And my partner works as hard as I do. The problem is everyone wants to play what is or isn't socially accepted, and I don't care what others think as long as I have a roof over my head, there is food in the house and the bills are paid. No one else's opinion matters.


AND yet as a single mother I get praised all the time for working, studying and finishing a degree and raising my kids... does this article only apply to two parent families? At the end of the day you do whatever is best for your family.


I FEEL terrible about my kids missing out on things because I have to work, but the cost of living has gone up far more than wages have in the years since they were born. It's the reality of being among the working poor.


JUST because a child attends day care for a few hours a week doesn't mean the raising of the child is being done by others, and surely financial stability and security for the future is just as important? I think it's also important for a woman to have their own sense of self and success outside of parenting - you need to achieve things you can be proud of and to set examples for your children.


I LOVE being a stay at home mum. I brought my child into this world and I will raise him, not a day care or a school. …

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